My ex talks about me way more than she should. So I decided to test the theory and see just how much. So here it is an experiment in obsessive behavior; this is to see just how many times my former spouse (who claims to not be obsessed or focused on me and my life) talks about me over the span of 30 days. I have given her a car, support paid the way she wants it and she has physical custody of my kids. So let’s just see if she gets all she says she wants…will this go away.
October 1st: ~~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #147~~After a FULL YEAR of fighting to have my Child Support Court Order honored and Military Law honored that mandates the BAH go to the dependants? Somebody FINALLY did their job.
I know right!! Yayyyyy! He can never take me to court again over the car!
Thank you, Roz. He insisted on paying for the car as part of the separation agreement. He did everything crazy he did in the separation and divorce figuring I would go back to him. I didn't. So, then he paid it off. Two reasons. 1) He figured he would save money on the payment (Which he refinanced to double what the payment was to keep going to court....and 2) He figured I didn't have the $400.00 for the taxes. Which, of course, I didn't. Then he threatened to 'steal' the car if I couldn't. Sure did-called it Operation Recovery. And, he threatened to take me to Court. Blah. Blah. Blah if I couldn't have the taxes paid in five days. Same old. Turns out, with a Court Order that the car was mine at the time of Pay Off? I didn't have to pay the taxes. So, it cost me $19.00 to Register it in my name. In conclusion? While he was trying to screw me again? He didn't do his homework and I scored me a car worth about $15,000.00 for $19.00 bucks. True story.
October 2nd: Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #149~~Wow. So I couldn't sleep. And I have been laying here thinking about the past two years of Hell. Two years ago I had to spend my Birthday without my kids. Last year he wouldn't pay child support and we were truly destitute. Worrying about toilet paper and soap. The BASICS.
October 3rd: I live in 'Small Town America'. And, it is AMAZING how 'Small Town' GOSSIP travels. For real. It is actually quite amazing. When I left my Ex, he knew this. I didn't. I never cared about anyone's 'business' nor was I miserable enough to embellish another's 'misery'. Well, he started a bunch of lies about me. And it snowballed.
~~YEP.Love EVERY WORD. WORD FOR WORD~~But me? I will do what I please, I will breathe and you will pay for your sins. This IS IT for us. You ARE full of it. haha. Your LOSS~~
October 14th: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #158~~We will see how THIS one goes over-oh well, what is RIGHT is RIGHT~And, I sure hope that Corrupt SOB who calls himself a 'Judge' reads this~~This 'Chess' Match is gonna stop-I am the Queen for his pawns.~~Jus Sayin'~~
Letter to Mr. Insanity:
"A head's up. I will not have the money to transport the kids for Christmas. Period. So, I would suggest you arrange s...
I mean, really? And if he goes overseas? Do I board a SHIP or a PLANE to get them there? Hardin County Family Court System? Get with the REAL WORLD. Helllooooooo!!!!!
October 16th: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #159~~I hesitate to post this for two reasons. One? Years ago in our first year of marriage my ex talked me into to 'Couple's Therapy'. Then he proceeded to portray himself as a 'victim'. He told the 'therapist' that I called him an 'Asshole'. She looked directly at ME and said "That is ABUSE. THAT is NAME CALLING". I gathered my purse, looked directly at her and said "He THREW me ACROSS A ROOM. INTO A WALL. I don't call that 'name calling'. I call THAT an ADJECTIVE TO DESCRIBE THE NOUN THAT ABUSED ME". Lol. Sure did. I mean, give me a break. Secondly, as a victim of abuse you have to deal with so much 'questioning', disbelief, and 'blaming the victim'. Most DON'T and REFUSE to accept this is rampant in our Society. They will say "You REALLY said that?" ...I will say "Hell, yeah, I said that". They will usually judge the victim. It is so much easier to say "She MUST have done SOMETHING" than to be honest and say "NO Woman should be thrown across a room!". It is so much easier than facing the fact that the United States of America has a huge problem with the abuse of women and children, the lack of resources and the corruption of the family courts which then allows the abuser to abuse you legally. That being said, here is my last e-mail to my abuser. The abuser of my kids. If you are faint at heart and Puritan in mind-disregard-if you are ready to hear the anger, disgust and fatigue of someone who is sick and tired of the abuse and the system's failure to protect-Please Read~Here we go.....
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Look, you asshole, this whole 'pretend world' that you live in where you portray to people that you are 'taking care' of me has gotten very old. Every cent you send is spent on your kids. …….Expect the Bill and notification of what I need from you as a Down Payment. In the meantime? Go Fuck Yourself and quit stressing my kids out. Asshole
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It's the truth and screw the 'formalities' or the expectation of me to always act like a 'Lady'. I won't with him. He better get used to it. And so should the 'system'. I have been abused long enough. I am tired of this waste of time and energy at the expense of my children who along with myself have literally been treated like third class citizens. I may as well wear a Burqua the way I was given NO RIGHTS FOR SO LONG. I should have been stoned in the streets. And, yes, Dear Reader, it IS that BAD here at times. Well, know what? I DON'T wear a Scarlet Letter. I DON'T wear a Burqua and my daughter and I will demand nothing less than fairness. I WILL teach her that. The Constitution PROTECTS her and her Father has RESPONSIBILITIES. No Appelate Judge can argue that. And? He deserves my 'ADJECTIVES'. There IS only ONE way to describe a completely abusive Asshole. Sorry...TRUTH!! Jus Sayin...~~~
Jennifer Specht: Thanks, Carol. That means a lot. Enough is Enough! And, no more, my kids can't take his drama. It's ridiculous. Braces? It's not like she is asking to go to Europe to party for the summer. I mean, give me a break!. So, I put him on blast and publish this Diary for every other woman who has been ripped apart by a system that is a BUSINESS. THEY WANT YOUR MONEY. How do they get it and protect their jobs? They keep you in Kangaroo Court. Enough.
Jennifer Specht: Yes, Carol, my children and I were not only victimised by him but then by everyone in the system. Literally TOLD that we didn't have a right to our anger and still being called liars. It is sickening how society supports abuse
October 21st: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #162~~I had an AMAZING Weekend. I did. I spent so much time with my beautiful kids. I cleaned the house (I LOVE a CLEAN House, not gonna lie!)~I got all of the groceries bought. I planned meals. I watched Romy play an amazing game of Football. I had a hilarious day with Maddy shopping and enjoyed every minute of Jeff's 'Gift of the Gab'. I have NO COMPLAINTS. Even my 'ex' husband's stupid, childish drama just made me laugh. It did. I like this feeling of 'Normal'. I like that my kids are finally seeing 'Normal'. They deserve it. Groceries, Mom home-Mom cooking-need something? Mom can get it? THAT is NORMAL. And THAT is COMFORT. Thank you, God, for carrying us through. We are loving our drama free life and THIS is our COMFORT ZONE~
Well there you have it; a lite month by my ex’s standards. For someone who has moved on, found the love of her life and is truly happy for the first time in her life. I sure do seem to come up in her thoughts an awful lot. I have received numerous emails, 32 emails in all during the month of October but refrained from including them in this. Many were ramblings and repeated the same thing over and over again. Well, it’s good to know I made a lasting impression. Bahahahahaha I sure do crack me up.
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