Political and Social thought of the week: 16NOV15

In the wake of the terrorist attack in Paris, the weekend and this morning’s news and social media is still buzzing with talk of what we should do, how we should do it and who should be involved. For me the news and social media can be a “Catch 22.” I like to know what’s going on in my world and the world in general, but I have a low tolerance for….bullshit. Memes, comments, biased news articles, the whole lot.

Our “leaders” in Washington are taking to the air so all can hear how they have an answer to the problem and they clearly know how to defeat ISIS. I just listened to Lindsey Graham and I just sat here thinking, “How the f… did this cat even get elected?!?” His best sound bite is he’d put “boots on the ground” i.e. a ground force and that along with help from our allies would defeat ISIS. He also insulted the SOF community when he highlighted that 50 guys on the ground can’t do anything. Lindsey Graham should go tackle “Nasty Nick.” He talks as if he’s actually going to go fight. That’s laughable. Or Donald Trump’s idea about bombing them to the Stone Age. The French President’s response to the attacks, he dropped around 20 bombs on the “ISIS capitol.” Yeah…that will solve the problem. But in general, I love it when folks talk mad cash knowing fully well they don’t have to do ish but watch it on TV or hear about it in a briefing. Folks talk a good game yet how many have spoken to any actively serving or retired military strategists about how you go about defeating an IDEOLOGY!!!!! It is no different than racism. Racism is not a person or group. Racism is an ideology.

Yes that’s right. I don’t mean to burst your uneducated military bubble but ISIS is not a bunch of jihads on the ground, ISIS is an IDEOLOGY and THAT is what we have to fight. You can kill 1,000 individuals in the fight against ISIS but if you don’t defeat the mindset, the ideology…then you will have other individuals who pick up where those you just killed left off. And just how do you combat an ideology? Education…along with maturity and an open mind is a good place to start. You must be mature enough to listen and educated enough to be able to absorb the words you are being told. You also need to be educated enough to utilize critical thinking skills so that you can truly look at the ideology and perhaps see just how flawed it really is. Lastly, be willing to change and move from said ideology. Once you’ve done that, then  the real battle begins. That battle being what do you do with all those whose mindset you have now changed? And how do you keep them from going back to that or finding another ideology that perhaps is far worse? But, jobs, education…a life, must surely be at the forefront of all of that. If you don’t believe me that all of that is monumentally important, go west and visit some of the lovely and bustling RESERVATIONS that house Indians who have just done so well the past 200 years.

I’m not a rocket scientist nor do I claim to know it all but I do have common sense and enough of it combined with an education to form an opinion based on the use of both.

The End of the Week

         It's Saturday morning babysitters and the house is quiet. Jeff is sleeping, Rome is sleeping (After an evening out with new friends), Brodie Dingle​ is chilling somewhere and Clarabelle naturally is in her kennel because she'd rather play than use the bathroom. Oh, and I have to clean up her mess once again under the bed. I'm still not fully engaged on Facebook as I had been in the past. Just seems folks post less and less about their lives and that of their families than any other subject that does nothing more than keep us all apart as people. That...to no end, drive me crazy. It wouldn't be so bad if it was once in awhile but man it's like every single hour of every single minute. The "unfollow" button has been a Godsend in some regards. People are my friends for a reason but that doesn't mean I want to here every single thing they say. Sorry, it really isn't that important. And I'm sure I have gotten on the nerves of many in the past and probably still do to this day. Oh well, such is life.
        
            So if I'm not commenting on your stuff like I used to, don't take it personal. I've just become a little more selective about what I wish to post on. I spend a little more time on Instagram seeing how it's nothing but pictures and who doesn't like to look at pictures? That and I have 2 boys who need a lot of my attention right now as well as my studies and keeping my grades up. Retirement is treating me pretty good and I con only imagine how much better it would be if I had had more time to plan it. So my tib bit of advice on that is if your at 10yrs, you need to start getting ready to retire. Talk to those of us who are and find out what you NEED to be doing to set yourself up for success. I did a lot in a year, but if I had had 2 or 3 years...man...I can't imagine what I could have had done.
       
          Last week was a trying week for me. A lot of things are going on and even though we wish for the best and plan for the worst, when the worst does happen, being prepared for it doesn't make it sting any less. We all have had our fair share of ups and downs and it's nice to know folks care a fair amount about you as you do them. I got more than a few personal texts, phone calls and messages on top of the comments posted to my post earlier this week. Sometimes engaging that 300m target is a lot harder than you think. But no matter what...you must remember to breath.
     
         So to all my friends who took the time to comment or drop me a message...I say thank you. The love was much appreciated. Especially the unexpected shout out from JB55!!! Love you Bruh!!!! And if you didn't comment...no worries, I know some of you have me in your thoughts but you just aren't the type to be all mushy and stuff. I have some things I need to take care of today, bills and a lil home maintenance, before I can relax for the remainder of the day. So I'm moving back into my self imposed only come on Facebook when I really need to mode.
   
     Take care all....and remember...I'm still watching and I will leave you with this.    


"Father I am trusting you. I believe that you are in control. And even though I do not see anything tangible happening, I believe you are working in my life, going before me, making my crooked places straight, and causing me to be at the right place at the right time."   

We've Come Full Circle

Not long ago I had to make a somewhat emergency drive to Kentucky after my former spouse put her hands on our daughter in a drunken rage. She was later arrested and jailed for the remainder of that day. The following day I spoke with several officers about her and the arrest. After getting back home I emailed her and told her in light of recent events I feel it was best if my sons moved with me. I offered her a peaceful solution to which, true to form it was not received well.

                I contacted my Attorney and had her file a motion seeking physical custody of our sons. I contacted her again asking to do it without court and peacefully which it would all be settled prior to Madison’s graduation the end of May. But naturally, that wasn’t going to happen. So a court date was set for 10 July. I drove up on the 9^th and the next day we were walking down the side walk into court when I got a call from my attorney telling me that my former spouse had called and said she was in the ER in Bowling Green. So there would be no court and I’d have to drive back to Georgia with nothing resolved. A new date of the 17^th of July was given and I’d have to drive back up once again hoping she would show up. I don’t believe she knew I was coming but I did. And around 0920 we finally went into the court room. I hadn’t been in there since June of 2011.

                My Attorney informed the judge of the motion and that I was simply seeking physical custody since the boys were both teenagers and desired to live with me. The judge was pleasant and simply told Jennifer that teenage boys typically need their fathers during those years and that it wasn’t personal. So that was that. He ruled that I was to be the physical custodian and my goal and promise to my kids of not pointing fingers and bring up all the dirt was met.

                So Things have come full circle for me and my life. I will continue to operate as I have since 2009 when all this started. I will take my family to counseling so that my kids can talk through whatever anger and feelings they have had inside of them since this all started. This will also give them a safe environment to ask questions and seek answers and acknowledgement of actions that have taken place between their mother and I over the past 6 years. So again, I will assist them in moving forward and the healing process by doing what they need and putting those needs at the forefront. It feels good to go to the gym with them and workout. It’s nice having my son helping me mow the lawn or take the garbage to the curb. My son has a job which I’m super proud of him and what he’s doing for himself. Madison starts college in the fall and she is super excited. They are all well and have adjusted to their new lives here in Georgia.

                What I have learned from all this is doing the right thing, maintaining the moral high ground and putting the needs of others no matter how uncomfortable it maybe or unhealthy you have to allow things to play out  because with patience and perseverance…you can succeed.

What's in the news today

 So the debate rages on and my newsfeed is full of stuff fore and against the confederate flag. One major argument is that the flag was hijacked by radicals (Hmmm so was the religion of Islam yet folks still hate them and are not tolerant) and that we should all be educated enough to know the difference (just like we should know that folks who are Muslims aren't all terrorists or Jihadists) and be able to separate the two (Just like good Muslims and bad Muslims).
  I don't openly talk about racism or the racism I have experienced over my life time because...truth be told...no one wants to hear it. It's a very uncomfortable subject for a lot of folks and not all can have a mature, open and honest discussion about it. I've heard numerous rationalizations for why things happen but seldom does someone simply say that it was probably an instance of racism. Some of the defense mechanisms that prolong it: Denial, rationalization, blame, and reinterpretation are just a few. You know sometimes people act in a manner which is clearly racist and you just gotta call it for what it is. Today many groups are aware and are making others aware of the existence of personal racism in its mini- or ultra-subtle forms but you also have to be open to it. Have you noticed how racism has changed over time and how it has subverted or resisted challenges? Racism is flexible and adaptable. Another way to defuse responsibility is by claiming that all the devastation occurring to minorities happened in the past. Some white people are often oblivious to the fact that many of the same discriminatory policies of a hundred years ago are still in effect today. Just this morning a white news anchor implied that with us having a Black president, he thought the country was moving in a positive direction. I have heard this numerous times from numerous people and they are always shocked when something happens. How is that?  I've been married to 3 white women...I know first hand.
 Because if it's not talked about then it doesn't or hasn't or won't happen...in some folks mind. I have never ever ever ever had a person who wasn't black ask me, "Hey Dingle, when was the first time you were called a nigger?" Because for me at the age of 8, I will never forget the day it happened. One of the benefits of being white is that you do not have to see or deal with racism all the time. It is scary, difficult, risky and may bring up many feelings, but ultimately is the only healthy and moral thing to do that being confront it and talk about it. Understand the motivations behind it and the power it has.
 This weekend and the following weekends when you have people over, take a honest minute and look around. How many people that don't look like you are at your home?  How many kids that don't look like your kids are always over at your house? If you have teenagers...what do their friends look like? I could go on and on with questions but you may understand what I'm saying. Which is, what does your circle of friends look like?
 Almost everyone knows I was a post level Equal Opportunity Advisor and I was the led for the Unit level course and facilitators course for 3 years. I wasn't always well liked by some blacks when I had the position because I have always called it like I saw it and wasn't quick to jump on their side when they felt they were being discriminated against by a leader. I am the last guy you will ever see "playing the race card" but you can bet after I dissect a problem or issue and I have exhausted all other explanations if it's racist, sexist or what ever I'm going to call it like I see it.
 So babysitters, this will likely be my final post on this subject as it's pretty clear no one wants to REALLY discuss the topic of racism and all the ugliness that it brings. because like everything in life, if you don't talk about it, it will miraculously go away. Folks need to realize...it will never ever go away.

The Truth about the Spartans

 For my research paper in Western Civilization I (which I received an 88% on) I decided to do it on the Spartans. Ever since 300 everything is Spartan this or Spartan that. But were the Spartans really all that? So I decided to find out.

   In 1998 comic book artist, writer and graphic novelist Frank Miller, known for his work with The Dark Knight, Daredevil and Wolverine published a graphic novel titled 300. In 2007, Frank Miller’s graphic novel was brought to the big screen in the major motion picture 300. It was a box office smash. Prior to the movie, I knew nothing of Sparta or the Spartans and honestly, I had no interest in them. After the movie, as a Soldier, I was captivated by the idea of a culture whose citizens were warriors to the core. And within the military community, many units quickly adopted images and the name “Spartans” for their respective unit’s nickname. A friend I know even refers to his son as “The Spartan Child.”  During the first few classes in my Western Civilization class, I was exposed to some interesting facts about the Spartans and the Persians. My curiosity was peaked and I wanted to know what was true and what was “Hollywood” when it came to the portrayal of the Spartans. How were they able to have a society purely made up of warriors? Did they really discard less desirable children like in the movie? Did they build homes, farm and hunt? And most importantly, did 300 Spartans take on the entire Persian Army? I desired to know the true history about the Spartans, as well as life within their society.

   Movies take liberties when telling stories and at times this can serve as a tool for you to question and seek the truth, and expand your knowledge on the subject. Sparta, known today as Laconia, was located on the southern tip of Greece and is roughly 100 miles south west of Athens. It is surrounded by mountains to the north, east and west. What’s generally known of the Spartans is that they were a militaristic society, amazing warriors and just hard as nails which is true. Members of the Spartan society were socialized into this militaristic way of life, which began directly after birth. Boys and girls were taken in front of the elders, known as the Gerousia and their the child was viewed and thoroughly inspected. If the Gerousia felt the child did not meet their criteria, they were discarded. In short, they were killed. Children that passed the inspection were given a bath in wine and returned to their parents where they could grow up strong and taught to fear nothing (McCutchen, 2000).  At the age of 7, boys were indoctrinated into a program which focused on survival, fighting, self-reliance and physical fitness to name a few. This program was called the Agoge. In the movie they briefly mention the Agoge through dialogue and visual references but nothing in great detail. The Agoge was a state run and sponsored program which all boys entered; as part of the training, young boys would be thrust out into society where they had to fend for themselves which included stealing food since the boys were not fed. It was believed that by starving a Spartan boy spiritually, you would make him tall and strong because eating too much would make him short and fat. When fighting for food, resources, or mere sport, these fights could turn brutally violent. The Agoge conditioned the boys physically and mentally sending them down the path to becoming a Spartan warrior.

   During the Agoge they were constantly watched and evaluated. For example, if a boy was caught stealing, he was beaten and punished. What’s interesting is that he wasn’t punished for the crime of stealing, he was punished because he was caught or seen stealing. At the age of 12, their official military training began at the hands of older Spartan warriors. These men were seasoned, in their early 20’s and held the title of Iren. The boys were under the direct supervision and tutelage of their Iren until they reached the age of 18 at which time they were considered men.

 What isn’t generally known is the two groups that supported the Spartan’s way of life; those two groups being the Helots and the Perioeci. This is how were they able to have a society purely made up of warriors. This is why they didn’t farm, hunt or even build homes. “Because Spartan men were professional soldiers, all manual labor was done by a slave class, the Helots (Staff, 2015).” Well in most societies when folks aren’t doing the manual labor they typically have slaves doing it. Like other societies, they fought and conquered other areas which led to their massive slave contingent called the Helots. Calling them “slaves” depended on who you asked as some referred to the Helots as slaves and other considered them a class in-between slave and free men. The Helots, which means “captives,” originated from two major areas: Messenia, which is west of Sparta and Laconia, which was to the south of Sparta. Helots did all the farming and were required to give up portions of their harvest to Sparta. They also supported the Spartan society in roles such as military aids, servants and nurses, just to name a few of the unskilled jobs they maintained. Since they greatly outnumbered the Spartans, the ratio was 7 to 1, there needed to be a way of keeping all of these Helots in check.

   “The teenage boys who demonstrated the most leadership potential were selected for participation in the Crypteia, which acted as a secret police force whose primary goal was to terrorize the general Helot population and murder those who were troublemakers. At age 20, Spartan males became full-time soldiers, and remained on active duty until age 60 (Staff, 2009).” Typically around the age of 16, they were selected for admission into the Crypteia. As Crypteia, the young men were given free rein to do as they pleased in order to keep the Helots in line. This included beatings, intimidation tactics and even humiliation. For example, the members of the Crypteia would often get the Helots intoxicated and make a mockery of them in the streets. This also served as a lesson to members of the Spartan society as how not to act, especially in public. Helots who were smart, rebelled or was showed the potential to be an upstart, were dealt with quickly. The Crypteia were ruthless and to grasp the extent and the power they were granted, typically once a year in the fall, they were allowed to kill a Helot and suffer no consequences (Staff, 2009). The Spartans did appreciate that a live slave was much better than a dead one. And though they were treated brutality, they ensured that the Helots were able to continue to support their way of life.

   With the Helots doing the day to day tasks within the society, the Spartans needed someone to create and furnish their weapons. This task was performed by another group, the Perioeci. Their stance within the Spartan society was strange yet unique. Unlike the Helots, the Perioeci, which means “dwellers-around,” were free men who lived primarily in the highlands and beach areas. They did have the ability to move freely to other areas and countries where the Helots and average citizens of Sparta were not. They also served as a buffer between the Helots, Spartans and other Greeks.

   There is a scene in the movie where King Leonidas’s wife, Gorgo, interrupts during his conversation with the Emissary from the Persian Army at which the Emissary protests and asks her what gives her the right to speak during a man’s conversation. Her reply was short and quick, “Because only Spartan women give birth to real men!” Now hearing that in a movie, it can be dismissed as good writing or a great movie quote. But it seems that the comment was spot on for its depiction of a Spartan woman’s attitude and demeanor. “The Spartan women were good judges of manhood. A foreign lady once remarked to the wife of a Spartan commander that the women of Sparta were the only women in the world who could rule men. "We are the only women who raise men," the Spartan lady replied (McCutchen).” We know the men who were conditioned at an early age and it appears that the women were too. It was believed that to bare a future Spartan warrior, women needed to be strong and fit. Not only were the women expected to be mentally strong but they also exercised and presented a very fit appearance. Unlike women in other areas of Greece, Spartan women were well read and educated in music, philosophy and the arts. A strong and healthy mother resulted in a strong and healthy child was their philosophy. Girls were also paraded in front of boys nude. That way they could be shamed into staying fit if they indeed were not as fit as their peers or if they appeared fat (Legends & Chronicles, 2007). Girls were also taught to fight and wrestle as these skills were passed on from mother to daughter. I can only imagine this mentality in today’s society.

   At the age of 18, females were given physical tests and once they passed, like their male counterparts, they were considered citizens and could look forward to marriage. But the most important thing was they could now bare Spartan children. If and when a woman decided to marry she was whisked away by her friends (bridesmaids) to a secret location (Staff, 2009). Once there they would shave her head, dress her in men’s clothing and she would await her husband. Once married, the two would meet in secret for years with him sneaking out from his military barracks so that he could be with his wife. At the age of 30, he would leave the barracks and they could live together. Sneaking out of the barracks wasn’t allowed and getting caught resulted in severe punishment like when he was young. Again, punishment wasn’t instituted because he snuck out, but because he was caught sneaking out or back in. “Marriage was important to Spartans, as the state put pressure on people to have male children who would grow up to become citizen-warriors, and replace those who died in battle. Men who delayed marriage were publically shamed, while those who fathered multiple sons could be rewarded. (Staff, 2009)”

   The Battle of Thermopylae, or known to the masses as 300 was a battle in which 300 Spartan warriors accompanied their king, King Leonidas, in an attempt to stop the Persian Army from advancing south to Athens. 300 Spartans fought and gained access into history. But just how much of the portrayal in the movie was accurate? As explained, there is a lot more to the story and culture of the Spartans than revealed in the movie. Leonidas didn’t leave Sparta with just 300 Spartans serving as his personal body guard, enroot to the “Hot Gates,” the scene of the epic battle. There were actually 6,000 to 7,000 Greeks who accompanied the 300 plus Spartans as they moved north east to meet the Persians and stop their advance. The Greeks and Spartans held their own until a Greek told King Xerxes of a pass that would take them around and through the mountains which would allow them to attack Leonidas’s forces from the flanks and rear. Leonidas realized that the Persian Army had begun to maneuver on them and some of the other Greek fighters; knowing what was surely to happen, retreated. Leonidas then decided he’d send the majority of his men back to Sparta and only 300 Hoplites remained at his side (Staff, 2009). Yes, all male citizens of Sparta were warriors, however not all were Hoplites. The characters seen in the movie or what is typically visualized when someone says a “Spartan” were actually the Hoplites. They were considered the cream of the crop and they fought using shields, spears and swords; famous for using a tactical formation called a Phalanx. In this formation each man uses his shield to form a wall and was linked in with the man next to him. With strength and training, the Hoplites would fight as one single unit, thrusting with their spears and protecting with their shields. However this formation was vulnerable from rear and flank attacks.

   The Hoplites that remained at Leonidas’s side were accompanied by Thespians and Thebans. They fought bravely until all had been killed. Leonidas and his fellow Spartans did receive the beautiful death that all Spartans crave however, we now know they were not alone. Like most dominate societies over time even Sparta could not maintain its supremacy on the battlefield.  The Spartans, in 371 B.C.E. suffered a crippling defeat during the Battle of Leuctra at the hands of Greeks who had fought alongside them during the Battle of Thermopylae, the Thebans. General Epaminondas, a Theban General, a year later led a force into Spartan territory and freed the Messenian Helots who we know to have been enslaved by the Spartans (Staff, 2009). As time progressed the Spartans became a second-rate power in Greece.

   Knowing why Hollywood takes liberties when retelling tales helps you to acknowledge that the movie 300 only covers the spectacular highlights of the Spartan’s. Focusing on the history of the Spartans makes for great action while omitting the hard facts, and certainly makes the story of the 300’s heroic deeds and fighting spirit at the Battle of Thermopylae that much more impressive. But truth be told, 300 Spartans didn’t fight and die alone. They were rigorously militaristic society, none which would have happened without the Helots and the Perioeci. Having thousands of slaves allowed for the focus on war fighting with no concern for the mundane tasks. When compared to today’s standards, we see that they went to great extremes to make it so. For example, they killed children that weren’t fit to live in their society and postured naked young women and girls in front of boys for the sole purpose of humiliating the flabby ones. None of this would be acceptable behavior but for a warrior culture like the Spartans it was fitting. Movies are great entertainment and sometimes they can be used to retell a historic tale. But take note that movies typically exaggerate or over emphasize charters and actions. If you want the truth, grab a history book. You’ll find it has more accurate information than a Hollywood block buster.

Works Cited

Legends & Chronicles. (2007). Retrieved 04 17, 2015, from Legends & Chronicles: http://www.legendsandchronicles.com/ancient-civilizations/ancient-sparta/spartan-women/

McCutchen, W. H. (2000). web.archives.org. Retrieved April 17, 2015, from 15 Ancient Greek Heroes from Plutarch's Lives: http://www.e-classics.com/lycurgus.htm

Staff, H. (2009, May 3). History.com/topics/ancient-history/sparta. Retrieved April 17, 2015, from History.com: http://www.history.com/topics/ancient-history/sparta

So, is it a lie? Who attacked who?

Ok, it has been said by my former spouse Jennifer that  I attacked her at our home because I came there, demanded to see my kids, she wouldn't let me see my kids, I beat her up, drove around the corner and called her girlfriend Sheila Whitfield and told her that I had just beat her up (Sheila testified in court to this). Jennifer also stated that I called her cell phone and tied up the phone line so that she was unable to call the police. And it was 2 hours later when she finally did call the police on the phone and they came to the house. Now when she phoned the Police she said that someone was "shining a light on our house" yet when the officers arrived and saw her she told them that I came there and attacked her.





Now a few facts before I show documents which all have a different story of the events in question:





1. I was on my way home from a week in NJ when all this went down. I was actually in Nelson County getting gas 10 minutes after the alleged attack took place. My lawyer had a copy of my bank statement which was time stamped with the name of the gas station, location and time I used my debit card to get gas.







2. We both had T-mobile phones and she had access to her phone records that would show how I not only tied up her cell for hours so she couldn't call the police but showing that I called her girlfriend Sheila and confessed to attacking her. Did you ever wonder if I were tying up her cell line, why not go into the house and use the house phone since we had one? Why did Jennifer not bring copies of her cell calls to show that I did indeed tie up her cell line? Probably because that too was a lie.





3. I was talking with a friend from high school the entire ride and I had the cell records along with the bank information but we never had to use it because after I spoke and the arresting officer spoke, it was clear Jennifer lied. 






4. Her blood alcohol content was .315. She has disputed this several times citing that it was an error, time had passed and that the test was improperly done. That would mean a lot of folks have gotten DUIs that didn't deserve them. Any professional or adult who understand that in order to have a BAC that high and still be able to function, you are in deed an alcoholic and have built up a tolerance for high usage over the years. Jennifer drank and got drunk daily after she failed out of nursing school...DAILY. She stopped briefly after Alex begged her to but it lasted about 2 weeks. That was a very peaceful two weeks in our home. She would go through 2 boxes of White Zinfandel (her favorite) a week easy or Captain Morgan and Diet Coke. And there was no wine glasses used, she used our glasses that held at least 15oz.





So now, using various documents you can read just how many versions of the story Jennifer told.







Version 1 The police report.

Version 2, Neglect report 

Version 3, EPO (Emergency Protective Order) number 1

Version 4, the 2nd EPO she tried to file (This one was more detailed and written a few days later after she sobered up)

Version 5, The Congressional

“Sgt Jerome Dingle volunteered to go for a one year tour in order to avoid divorce. Once he returned he then left after 2 weeks to go to New Jersey leaving my four children once again in my care. Upon returning to Kentucky he assaulted me-convinced a police officer I had falsified a report and I was jailed. I have never been in trouble with the authorities prior to this. He went for emergency custody of the 4 children claiming I am “unfit” and an “alcoholic.” After leaving the children voluntarily for over a year he then claimed these accusations. With no evaluations and based purely on hearsay the judge took my parental rights from me and I had to vacate my home. I am now homeless. I have passed 2 professional evaluations deeming me to not be an addict. Sgt Jerome Dingle then attempted to have my 17 year old son arrested as a runaway after an argument when he physically accosted my child. My 17yr old is now with me and we are homeless and penniless. I had to pawn jewelry in order to be in the hotel I’m in until tomorrow. He had threatened my life and on Thursday April 30^th told my three younger children (ages 12-10-8) over an incident where my daughter was sent a pizza from my friend that “If you tell your mother anything- I will make it so you NEVER see your mother again.” I take that as a two folded threat. #1-he will continue to manipulate the judicial system and #2-he will follow through with his threats to kill me.

At a minimum-I am asking the military to assist me to require Sgt Dingle to provide me with shelter and money to live on.”

So, there you have it. Which story is accurate? Version 1? 3? 2?  Was it me, the hitman or the guy I hired that beat her up? Which version are you the reader or her friend to believe? How about it doesn't matter. The facts speak for themselves as did the phone records, my sons and the bank statements. I simply wasn't there. So common sense takes over now and you have to ask yourself, "If she lied about this to friends, family and her kids...what else has she lied about?"

The dust has settled from court yesterday...phew.

So, now that time as passed and I've had a chance to analyze what took place in court, I can look at it objectively and remove what little emotion I had tied to it.


Nothing happened yesterday that I didn't already know COULD happen. That being I have to give her $600 that I didn't pay her in child support but gave to my daughter because she wasn't living there. Morally the right thing to do but LEGALLY I was wrong. No big deal.

The retirement owed to her was $623.72 for Feb and Mar. I didn't find out how much the sum was until my court date in March and I was the one that paid and filed the motion to ensure that she got the money. So again, even though I did the right thing by her and filing so that she could get the money, the Judge still stuck to the Law stating that she is owed it from the time I retired. That again...was no surprise and I knew this could happen.

Lowering of the child support, that's what this was all about. And it did happen child support was lowered. Now what wasn't expected was that he felt my income, which is roughly $1,000 less than on active duty wasn't enough and that I could and have the ability to work so he added the amount of $1,220 to my current income creating a new total and then basing the new amount on that. That babysitters...was not expected. Especially when he not once acknowledged that Jennifer was not hasn't been and currently isn't even employed. I didn't expect the Judge to add his own personal belief system in it also. And by that I mean he mentioned that while in college he had to work. And I get that and I could understand if I was not trying to pay child support. But I have no issue playing child support, I simply wanted to pay it based on my income like Jennifer is paying child support based on a minimum wage job which she doesn't even have.


But it is what it is. I will pay her as court order...not a big deal. Again, there really was no surprises yesterday and my attorney had covered all potential courses of action that could take place so again...no shocker. So all in all, money well spent to get things LEGALLY and OFFICALLY on the right track.

Smile...it's almost over.

Borderline Personality Disorder...some of my Ex's friends should take note!!!

Living with & Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

By Linda Sapadin, Ph.D
~ 3 min read

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.
~Mark Twain


We are a psychologically sophisticated society. Emotional difficulties are now shared openly — not only by celebrities but by your average person. It’s not unusual for people to tell friends that they have an anxiety disorder, anger management problem, depression, panic attacks, phobias, eating disorder, substance abuse problem, OCD or ADD.
Yet, there is a widespread psychological disorder that most people know little or nothing about. Why? Because its symptoms are largely interpersonal, causing many to view it as a relationship issue, not a mental health one. Also, people shy away from the term because of its unflattering name: Borderline Personality Disorder.

“Borderline? Am I going over the edge into an abyss? Oh my gosh! Next topic.”
Enough ignorance. Let’s review the major symptoms of people who have borderline personality disorder (BPD):

• They have turbulent and stormy relationships, making it difficult to keep a job or maintain a close relationship.
• They have frequent emotional outbursts, often expressing their outrage with verbal abuse, physical attacks or acts of revenge.
• Though they’re acutely sensitive to being abandoned and rejected, they’re harshly critical of those closest to them.
• They view others as “good” or “bad.” A friend, parent or therapist may be idealized one day, yet viewed the next day as a terrible person for failing to live up to their expectations.
• They may act out with self-destructive activity (i.e. reckless driving, compulsive shopping, shoplifting, cutting, bingeing with food, alcohol, drugs or promiscuous sex) as a way to fend off feelings of unbearable emptiness.

Borderline personalities run the gamut from mild to severe. It’s generally only the people who know borderlines intimately who are aware of the extent of their emotional difficulties.
Some sociologists believe that we are living in a “borderline culture,” heavy on righteous anger, light on acknowledging another’s perspectives. Watch daytime talk shows and you’ll understand what they mean. Or better yet, listen to the rhetoric of Congress and watch them in action (or should I say inaction).
If you recognize your own borderline characteristics, what should you do? If you’re motivated to change, psychotherapy with a psychologist who understands BPD can be quite helpful.
If you’re living with someone with BPD, life probably feels like an emotional roller coaster. So what can you do? Certainly, suggesting psychotherapy is a good idea. Don’t be surprised, however, if he or she uses therapy not to seek understanding but to rage about others. So, if therapy for your loved one is not moving forward, try a few suggestions:

Be consistent and predictable.

Whatever you have told your loved one that you will do (or won’t do), keep your word. If you’re the recipient of a violent outburst of accusations or a tearful meltdown, it won’t be easy. However, if you give in to the outrage, the borderline behavior is reinforced. And if you think your problems are bad now, just wait!

Encourage responsibility.

Don’t become your loved one’s rescuer. Don’t be manipulated into taking responsibility for his irresponsible actions. If he smashes up the car, don’t replace it. If she racks up credit card debt, don’t bail her out. If you keep rescuing her from the consequences of her actions, she will have zero incentive to change.

Offer honest feedback.

Don’t reinforce your loved one’s belief that he’s been treated unfairly unless you actually think that’s true. People with BPD tend to be clueless about how their behavior affects others. Hence, offer honest feedback. Say, “I know it feels rotten when you’re fired” but don’t agree with his assessment that it’s all because of those awful, mean people he worked for.

Don’t escalate the argument.

Your loved one may misinterpret what you mean. Offer constructive criticism and you’re met with a tirade of how despicable you are. Offer a compliment and you’re accused of being patronizing. Explain your intentions and the emotions escalate. Don’t get hooked into a fruitless argument. Do your best to keep your cool and your sanity even though you’re feeling frustrated, powerless and defeated by your loved one’s behavior.
How can you keep your cool and your sanity under incredibly difficult circumstances? Check out these helpful books:

• I Hate You – Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality, by Jerold Kreisman and Hal Straus
• Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking your Life Back when Someone You Care about has Borderline Personality Disorder, by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
• Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying You, by Shari Manning and Marsha Linehan.

Still want more help? Consider investing in a few therapy sessions for yourself. You’re not the one with the problem, but borderline personality disorder affects the whole family. If you learn skills to cope with your loved one’s behavior, you will all be better off.

Court tomorrow...yeaaaah. NOT!!!!

I'm soooo looking forward to yet another court appearance tomorrow (massive amount of sarcasm there). I am soooo tired of this woman and her BS. All I am asking the court to do is base my child support on my current income (which is actually double a minimum wage job). That's all. I'm not trying to pay it...just want it adjusted to my new income. I mean, it's been based on my pay since 2011 sooooo whats the problem now?? Fair right????

And my ex managed to argue with the court and my lawyer to the extent that the judge grew tired of her and granted a special hearing for an entire hour tomorrow so that my she could be heard. Man, I'm all for fairness but at some point...you just gotta say shut up and take the money already.
And the arguments/ motions (which I pasted below) which have me going to court for an hour instead of 15 minutes:

1. I owe her $2,494.88 in back retirement pay. Umm, I've been retired since Feb 1 (which is when I got my first check) and it's April and after she was awarded her portion I wrote her a check for 623 and some change (April's payment) and she is supposed to file the paperwork with DFAS so the money comes straight to her. So, do the math.

And saving the best for last; motion 2, which states:

1. That I need to continue to pay $1391.11 in child support because she is unable to work and that the kids need to maintain the same life style they are accustomed too.

2. I had 27 years to get myself ready for retirement and shouldn't be in college now because I could have gone to college while I was active duty.

3. She has a DOCTOR's note which states she can't work so I need to keep paying $1391.11.

4. That I made $4,833.90 on ACTIVE DUTY and now that I'm RETIRED I make $5,165.28 so child support should be raised based on my new income.

5. That I am purposely not working so that I the court would have to lower the child support.

6. And the best one yet......the new child support should be based on my FUTURE EARNINGS (wait, didn't she just say it should be based on my current income of $5,165.28?) for the FUTURE JOB (HUH?????) I will get by going to college (which if you recall I'm not supposed to be doing)

So the moral to the story is, if you've got an ex-spouse and y'all are at least civil or decent to one another....be thankful you don't have to deal with one like I got. LMAO.

The amount of arrogance never ceases to amaze

So something is amiss between Jennifer and my daughter. So after speaking with my daughter who was clearly upset I contacted my former spouse so that I could get her side.




"Jennifer,

 I'm not sure what is going on but the seemingly unfair treatment of our daughter needs to stop. You are her mother as you gave her birth. I can not for the life of me understand what is going on or why you are treating her as you have been the last few days. Not feeding her or allowing her to do laundry is unacceptable behavior by any standard. So, please contact me at your earliest convenience so that we can discuss a resolution to this issue. In case you forgot, my cell is 123-456-7890. I look forward to your call so that as parents we can work together to find a solution."

Her response...classic.

"Give me a break. Maybe the fact that you and Kerry are parenterally alienated me? Hmmm.... Or the fact that Jeffrey and her came home cussing me out? Hmmmm or the fact that they have been told-and constantly are telling me that the child support is "THEIR money". So how about you pay your child support douche bag? I will be asking the Judge for ALL late payment charges for these few months as well. Oh, and tell your daughter to have some respect. But that wouldn't ever happen since you have pumped their heads full of insanity. It will all come back on you. And NEVER call my phone again."


My final words to her

"They came home cussing you? I'm alienating you? You do realize that they live with you so that is impossible. 

You are their Mom and you are required to take care of them. Child support is for them and their care. This includes food, clothing, shelter. It is my half of taking care of them. You still are required to do your share....FINANCIALLY! 

So since you are unwilling to call me and act as an adult I will gain insight into whats going on through alternate means. Out of respect I called so that you the PARENT could fill me the PARENT in. Your unwillingness to do so leads me to draw my own conclusions and take action accordingly. Have a good day."

The amount of arrogance this woman has never ever ceases to amaze me.

Spring Break has ended

So my kids are all home and safe. I even got to meet my middle son's girlfriend. Hehehe, cute girl. Guess we know where he gets his taste in women from. Anyhoo, two of the three were here for spring break. Mac and the girls went to Florida for a few days and me and Jeff got some quality father son time.

After being told she could leave her Mom's house and then maintaining perfect attendance and going to work, her Mom called the Sheriff's office citing she was a "runaway" and naturally the police came to school and scared her half to death needlessly (we all know why she called after Moo was out for close to 3 months. Can you say child support??). I don't blame them as their moral compass probably thought what they said to her was best and may "scare her straight" however...sometimes we should just do our jobs and be quiet. You see, the police don't know the whole story nor did they really care about Moo's side or how she felt. Or, that she was in school every single day as well as still going to work. runaways usually "run" away. The also weren't there to lend advice to my daughter Thursday night when her Mom not only took her favorite bag but all others and locked them up in her car so Moo couldn't pack for her spring break with me and Kerry. Jennifer didn't count on me bringing a big suitcase though. Forewarned is forearmed in my world.

So, I know what my kids have been going through since 2009 and I have been in a position to do pretty much nothing since I have limited time with them. I know all too well how easy one can be on the receiving end of a Jennifer drunken verbal assault. So when my kids are with me, the time I spend focuses on being in a "normal" environment. One where my kids aren't placed in the role of caregiver and taking care of their Mom. Reinforcing good beliefs which I feel will help them mature and grow into responsible adults. Its not without its challenges but it can be done. Which is why when Moo wasn't living there I gave her a portion of the child support. yeah, I figured I'd have to give it back to their mom as that's truly all she cares about. The money she gets for them. In an email she sent me on March 31st shes said: "It is my JOB as a parent to not allow her to 'run away' from life. But, you are humbled. You are a JOKE. You supported her teenage angst because it was an excuse to not pay for your kids. In violation of a Court Order. Had you been smart? You would have given Christina's parents her portion of support because it is YOUR responsibility to pay for your child. Had you not taken it from me? While I let her have breathing room and some space? You better bet they would have been given money as I will always support my children." Wait, isn't that what I did? I spoke to the parents and they didn't want anything they just wanted to help. So, I gave it to Moo since she wasn't living at home. Yet when she went to court, she sure made sure the judge knew I didn't give her the money. All of $600.00. So the judge said since I had no OFFICIAL motion in place I had to return the money. If it was truly about Moo, Jennifer would have told the judge what she told me in the email. Nope, cause her kids have become a pay check for her. $300 of that was put towards a prom dress, graduation announcements, pictures, etc. All the things Jennifer should be doing for Moo but is clearly not. Yet to her friends, she's this great Mom. I don't regret giving Moo and I told her that. The money is child support and her Mom wasn't supporting her for close to 3 months. (Moo was literally 2 miles down the road yet Jennifer never called nor came and checked on her. I was in town for less than 5 hours yet I manged to do this.)

I spoke to my kids at Xmas about somethings and then while Moo and Jeff were here I added some stuff I've never told them. I told them that they weren't supposed to be here. I told them that based on the statistics of divorced children, especially when one parent is controlling and alienates they should all be pretty screwed up. I told them that they have proven the experts wrong and that they should be very very proud of themselves for the place they find themselves in today because they could have easily taken a wrong turn and I sure am proud of them as well as what they have managed to endure.

Moo will graduate and will head to off to college. She will do so under her own power as we bought her a car this past week. I was shocked as she did something I've never seen her do. She used a realistic approach and not one of fantasy which had been drilled into them at a young age (i.e. Jennifer telling Alex how she would buy him a Mustang when she became a nurse). Me and Jeff spent two days scrubbing and cleaning and wiping. The end result was the car looked pretty good once we were done. She was excited and she drove it all the way home by herself. (And for all you Moms freaking out, I was about 200m to a mile behind her the whole way) She still has some learning to do but that's Kerry and my job.

I say all this to say that sometimes you never know why God does what he does. And its very hard to have blind faith and just believe. I feel it was divine intervention us finding that car as it was priced within our budget and in great shape to be a girl's first car. So its been a metric ton of ups and downs with Moo and all my kids but with faith, family and friends...we are all still here. Don't give up babysitters. No matter how hard or lonely the road you are traveling on is. Let me be the second to remind you that God is always with you. Sometimes...we just gotta be quiet and listen.

She called the cops on our daughter today. A little long but well worth the read.

When I found out Jennifer put Madison out I was not happy. Moo told me she had been out a week after they returned from Xmas break. Madison insisted I not start anything as she just wanted to graduate with little to no drama. I contacted the parents of the friend she was staying with and spoke to both them. I let them know I was now in the loop on things and if they needed anything to contact me ASAP. I had promised Moo I would not start anything but I did contact Jennifer the next day and this is the conversation:

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  2/18, 3:28pm
  

  Jerome Dingle

  
  

  I would like for you to explain to me what it is that justifies you asking our daughter to leave your home?

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 4:17pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  Well let's see-I'm raising teenagers and? She got mouthy-I told her I'd she didn't like it? She could leave. She was told to come home and she wouldn't. She learned so well from your example. Now-would YOU like to explain why you don't send your kids the Child Support? Or the Court Ordered Retirement? Hmmmm. Don't start threatening me either. You have done NOTHING to raise them. Oh-would YOU like to explain how you allow my parents to give the boys money and not HER? Hmmmm. You see through all of your ABUSE-my parents psycho abuse and your illiterate parents uncanny avoidance of what has REALLY been done to my kids and I? I deal with the FALL OUT. So-she is being a BRAT! Period. Do a survey if parents. It's pretty common and requires tough love-something you know nothing about. She has been told that if she so chooses to adopt your legacy of insanity and dysfunction it is her life. Now-you might want to start supporting your kids in a reasonable and timely manner-because you see? If you REALLY cared? You would not play your abusive games which stresses this whole family unit out. Asshole.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 4:22pm
  

  Jerome Dingle

  
  

  OK, so what you're telling me is she got "mouthy" and decided to just up and leave so she can be mouthy. And on top of that you told her to come back home and she wouldnt. I wanna make sure I'm understanding you correctly?

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 4:50pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  It's clearly written. Yep. And she is playing victim. She is staying with trailer trash. SHE is lucky I haven't called the Sheriff on her ass and that family? They are lucky I don't charge THEM with parental interference. They haven't even been decent enough to call and say where she is. She called the one friend of hers that I don't like-she is sneaky-not the Hamptons-or Maya. Interesting. Why? Because they KNOW I'm a great mother and wouldn't 'hide' her out. So she is playing victim and exaggerating and I'm not apologizing to reacting to a week of surgery-no child support and their incessant demands and spoiled ISH. She thinks the grass is greener? She will learn. And until she can grow up-not MOOCH off of a family who is obviously dysfunctional to be a part of a teenagers' angst? She is going to have to learn. I make her pay for her phone. She has a job. She gave me money today (after 3 months of NOT paying) and said "Here's your money". MY MONEY? I said "No girl-this is YOUR money for YOUR phone". Like she is doing me a favor! Good God. Her BS started when I told her she was old enough to pay her portion. I made her pay for her gas she used. She didn't like it. Well sorry about her luck but that's life. And I am tasked to teach it. She said one day "Did YOU have to pay for your phone when you were MY age?" Bahaha! I said "Well-you see-we didn't HAVE cell phones and we actually had to SHARE! Imagine that! But I bought ALL my own clothes-even my deodorant. And guess what? I was prepared for LIFE unlike your generation". So they all pissed me off one night-starting with Romy saying "What's for dinner?" I said "Lasagna" (After making a homemade-from scratch-chicken noodle soup for the next day-just days post operation). He wasn't happy. I said "Since when do you not like lasagna?". Now keep in mind it was Stouffers frozen. Want to know what he said? He said "I don't like it frozen. I want it homemade". Ummmm? WHAT? I lost it. How dare they. Then your little Princess comes home asked what happened. I told her. She says "oh. Well I need the computer". Translation: gimme gimme to make me happy. An argument ensued. I told her ( which a BILLION parents have all said-so don't even try threatening me with faggot Brent Hall) "If you don't like it? Leave". Next thing I know? She calls that girl and left. Was my verbiage perfect? No. Was hers? No. A classic argument between a teenager and a parent. Problem is? These kids have watched for YEARS while you took EVERYTHING. Didn't pay child support. Made me lose jobs. Went without EVERYTHING for them because NONE of you people would and they expect it. I'm expected to go without anything I want or need so THEY can have and they watch me go without and watch YOU screw me over so YOU can buy new cars and motorcycles. They learned this sick idea that I am a sacrificial lamb for everyone else's happiness and I'm supposed to be a 'martyr'. Well the problem with that? Is it is sick and twisted and dysfunctional and? They will have a life filled with drama if they expect that of others. So-you can listen to her 17 year old 'version' all you like. They learned it from you and no good parent-in their right mind-is going to be stupid enough to allow it.

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  And, so, if you would like to co-parent you will support me in this because she has to learn that trying to be 'dominant' and in 'control' so she doesn't have responsibilities and rules won't do her any favors. Running off to live with some family-no worries about rent-food etc. isn't reality. It's up to you.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 6:42pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  I saw it in Alex's group. NINETY PER CENT couldn't handle LIFE. Dropped out of College. Arrested. Babies everywhere. Even he royally screwed up for awhile. I warned him. He had to learn the hard way. He's back in school on track to graduate. These kids aren't PREPARED and I am doing everything I can to prepare them. But she thinks I'm being 'crazy'. No. Cray Cray is not expecting her to pay for her own phone and gas and NOT demand I drop everything for her immediate gratification. And? She is staying with a dumb ass couple who have no clue obviously. Oh well. Not my problem. My responsibility to her is to have her as ready as possible for this big, bad world

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 6:45pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  She kept saying "Do you want me to come home?"????? Ummmm....I said "you were TOLD to get your ass home and you wouldn't. And until we can sit down and I set the ground rules for respect and responsibilities? No. Because then you will just black mail me with this and every time something doesn't go your 'way' you will threaten to leave". Unbelievable.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 8:10pm
  

  Jerome Dingle

  
  

  I'm more than willing to co-parent if that is your wish. However, I can not in good conscience support your current actions. You...were and are wrong.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 8:34pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  Well, coming from you? That is to be expected. Your actions have been deplorable. And? Being that you aren't here and have witnessed none of this? You sound like the fool you are and simply looking for a way to be the 'hero'. Which is fine. I have taken care of the 'problem' of your irresponsible and apprehensive lack of regard for the responsibility to your children. So, I'm so very sorry but I WILL take the money you owe with or without your co-operation. Have fun with that. Also? Should you choose to play your little game in Court? I have 2 things to say. 1) I'm living so under the poverty line-with CONCRETE evidence you ruined my career-my ability to work-the VIOLATION of my Fifth Amendment RIGHT to my property-that you will MAYBE get $50 bucks out of me a month and? 2) take these kids again? I go to Canada! Haha! Good LUCK getting a DIME from me. The lovely thing? I still get your Retirement! Which equals close to the Child Support that you already can't afford. So-you and your daughter enjoy your drama. The blind leading the blind. What a joke!

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 8:36pm
  

  Jerome Dingle

  
  

  So...what I'm hearing is, its my turn to parent???

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 8:38pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  Haha! Do yourself a FAVOR and brush up on your COMPREHENSION skills College BOIiii! That is NOT what I said

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 8:39pm
  

  Jerome Dingle

  
  

  Well, you have been saying how tough raising teenagers are, going to Canada, etc etc etc. So to me, what you are saying is its time for me to raise our kids and you need a break.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 8:45pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  I never said that. Your attempt at 'paraphrasing' may impress a Prof but you need to take your imagination and apply it to your school work raising children is never 'easy' but I am always up for the challenge. I offered you to co parent-you jump to conclusions-nothing has changed-same shit-different day with you. WHAT I am saying is challenge me? You won't win because you STILL have to pay.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 8:49pm
  

  Jerome Dingle

  
  

  Ok...then stop complaining!! Stop whining and crying about how tough it is. Get off your ass and get a job and be a role model for our children. Because right now...you are no better than the women you used to put down.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 9:48pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  Stop complaining? I didn't contact you! I didn't complain to you. You asked what happened I told you. Get a job? I had a job you dumb fuck! And then had medical issues to deal with-not to mention the FACT that you RUINED my career with your BITCH ASS LIES. You see JErome-no matter how much you lie? Me, you and GOD know the truth. I won't even get started on the fact that you have no job skills and no job-and went back to School to hide from the reality of the REAL World. YOU are now part of the 98% of the population now-not the TWO PER CENT that is Military living in La La Land-Welcome to the REAL World Home Boy-the FACT that this economy is flailing and jobs are hard to come by, the FACT that Fort Knox has essentially CLOSED-the FACT that a Domino Effect occurs and jobs dry up-so.... If the FACT that their 'Dad' is an asshole and did what you did to me? And the FACT that there are few jobs available is being 'Bad' example to my children? Well then so be it. Because the FACT remains that YOU are a deadbeat-YOU don't pay your child support on time? You lie. You cheat. Well THAT would only lead to one conclusion-that YOU are a horrendous 'example' to your children. Period. Now, go feel the wind on your face and enjoy your motorcycle while you can. You might consider getting a JOB (sorry that might take away from your FB 'Brodie' page) so that when you pay me? They won't repossess it. Karma is such a wonderful joy in life. One last thing? She turns 18 in 2 months. Get your jollies while you can. You always were such a dumb ass with absolutely NO GAME or ability to out smart me. Go on with your 'bad' self. I WILL promise to beat you before you even know it. Just saying.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 9:57pm
  

  Jerome Dingle

  
  

  Yes, you put our daughter out on the street. Something you never did to Alex. Now Im supposed to feel sorry for you and your choices. I know where Moo is and we talk daily. Yep 18 and graduation is around the corner. I cant wait. Have a good evening

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 10:00pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  I put out in the street? Hilarious. Prove it. Alex? Ummm he is grown and I sure as HELL DID lay down the law. So, your point is? Well obviously you don't have a point.

  
  

  
  

  I never asked you for sympathy. Stop your imagination. You are absolutely pathetic and offer you NO straws to grasp. You have to make things up to justify your insanity.

  
  

  
  
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  2/18, 10:07pm
  

  Jennifer Specht

  
  

  Feel sorry for me? PLEASE. I got AWAY from you and pride myself on my inner strength and stamina. Good for you both. The Father who LIED about his OWN daughter-made it a part of RECORD you tried to have her committed-put them ALL through HELL-and now you two Nut Cases bond? Well good for you both. You will just go round and round in circles of absolute nonsense. All the power to you. Get a JOB deadbeat or face repossession because no matter what? I get my money!

Well Jennifer was notified that I was not only seeking to have child support modified based on my new income but readjusted for 2 children since she put Madison out. Well interesting enough she called the police on our daughter and claimed she was a runaway. Madison has been out of the house since mid-January but you call the police and report her 1 week from our new court date for child support. Sorry, this isn't about your daughter "running" away. weeks ago when I found out I contacted her and to ensure she stayed ahead (Madison left in January and she posted about it in March) she wrote a message on Facebook taking credit for Madison leaving. Said she was "letting her spread her wings.

So Madison has been staying at a friend's SINCE JANUARY AND IT'S ALMOST APRIL and again, why call and report her a runaway if you are "letting her go to find her answers." Such a crock, this is about her wanting more money because the new amount was going to to be based on my sons and minus Moo. But naturally her followers praised her for being such a great mother.

 So I contacted her today and made her an offer.

Jennifer,
"Since all you care about is money I will pay you the new child support based on 3 kids until Madison turns 18 on 2 may then I will pay the new calculation which is what the motion is for on the 7th of April. I will do this if you allow Madison to live with Christina until she graduates. This also means you do not cause her any grief either. And so you understand, the child support will change when Madison turns 18 so you are only getting the three kids amount for the month of April. So, how about you do what's best for Madison and let her be happy her last few months of high school. Your actions these past few months are stetting the stage for your future relationship with Madison. You don't have one with your Mom. Do you really want that with your daughter? Just something to think about. So again, I will pay you for three kids until Madison turns 18 if you let her go stay and finish up school living with Christina."

Her response was typical Jennifer.

"This is hilarious. The last six years of her life was watching YOU be obsessed with money and destroying me. Good job! So you will pay the Court Ordered support until the Judge decides. Until then? You are in arrears and in violation of a Court Order to provide for your kids. Live with a friend? Please. I have a JOB and its called being a PARENT. I won't let her 'run away' just like you. What are you going to do without the Military to take you away when people start figuring out you are a FRAUD? And this is about money? What money? You owe me almost FIVE thousand dollars you criminal. Give me a break. I just feel so very sorry for my daughter when realizes you are a FAKE. It's her call. But not until she is 18. Have a lovely day you freak."

She keeps talking about money, you owe, you owe, you owe. Before it was three thousand I somehow owed her now it's FIVE thousand. So not only do I owe her, but I'm fake too. Wait, wasn't she just on Facebook bragging about how strong our daughter is and how she was letting her find herself? Yet, she called the police and said she was a runaway. This is about money plain and simple. With the new child support amounts and my retirement she will be getting just about $1,400.00. Which is what I was paying in child support minus the 19.94% of my retirement she would get. She was banking on getting $1,000.00 of my retirement and the $1,400.00 in child support. 

So, days away from court and I will head to KY on Friday to pick my daughter who feels I'm "fake" and bring her down for Spring Break. A much needed Spring Break. Just hang tough Moo Moo. You got less than 60 days until you graduate and move on to the next phase in your life. Nothing but blue sky's ahead.

"Evil is more apt to be stupid because it doesn't know any better." -M. Roper