Well it's Saturday and it’s been an interesting day thus far. It started out with a call from my daughter blaming me for my “friends” contacting her mother. As I tried to explain via logic that I had nothing to do with the contact nor do I care about said contact. She then talked to me about a fake facebook account titled “Jenny Jailbird” and insisted that I along with my “friends” were behind it. Well we discussed it for awhile and the conversation eventually came to a close.
Which leads me to where I am now, writing about it. My daughter, for as intelligent and smart as she is there is a reason you can’t reason with a teenager. They don’t understand. See, we all establish an M.O. aka Modus Operandi. A Latin phrase, approximately translated as “method of operation.” The term is used to describe someone's habits or manner of working. So I have an MO when it comes to dealing with my ex. And my MO is to speak my mind and say what I wish to say. I’ve never hidden behind a fake facebook account or fake anything else. I’m a big boy and I don’t have a problem calling a spade a spade. Besides, I do have a blog as I recall and the first amendment grants me such a right. However, I do exercise this right within reason. That reason being I don’t write anything that I can not prove, willing to put my name to or willing to go to court over. So that makes for honest writing and I guess you can say is a "code" of sorts. That and it keeps me out of trouble.
So when you’re trying to explain your “MO” to your daughter, as a teenager she just doesn’t get it. As for my ex-wife’s friends aka her flock of sheep…they are just…let’s say they are as “clueless” as my ex. They do not have the facts nor do they actually know me. So of course, it’s Jennifer’s version of me and they all eat it up like a bunch of hungry lil puppies. Why would I waste my time with fake accounts when I have spent plenty of time writing about my life and dealings with my ex right here within my blog. I have the ability to post pictures, documents and anything else if I wished to as the young folks say, “Put her on blast.” But alas…none are smart enough to pay attention to the facts or reality. Friday around 2:30pm I recieved a friend request from Jenny Jailbird. Not knowing who it was (But assuming it was my ex Jennifer), I messaged them.
Jerome Dingle 2:37pm
I got no issues adding you to my friends list. Nothing to hide, but how come you decided to use a fake account? Is there a reason you’re not using your actual account to friend me?
Jenny Jailbird 2:47pm
jerome this in support of you, n i rather stay unknown lol i want her ass to feel salty. the truth will b known
Jerome Dingle 2:52
Ok, I thought this was actually Jennifer. Supporting me is nice and all but a facebook account like this...it's really not needed. IMHO
After this I decided to look into this account and try and figure out who it was. Basically trying to confirm whether it was really my ex. See numerous times in the past my ex and her friends have created fake names and accounts to get me to talk and see what I was up too. My ex even gave one of her friends my password so she could read my e-mails (while I was in Korea, and yes...I have emails between Jennifer and her buddy Jennifer Shorts that proves this). Ok, back to the here and now...then my facebook beeps and I get the below message from one of Jennifer’s friends. This woman lived across the street from me in KY since 2005 and has never had a conversation with me which lasted longer than 5 minutes yet she feels the need to contact me on facebook on my ex-wife’s behalf.
Dee Houghtby Corkran 3:12pm
Shame on you, Jerome Dingle. If you didn't do this horrible thing of creating a false facebook page for Jenny, a friend of yours did. Shame on you. Your children will see this. It's sick.
Jerome Dingle 3:17pm
Why are you contacting me?
Dee Houghtby Corkran 3:18pm
Shame on you.
Jerome Dingle 3:20pm
ok, that tells me alot. If you aren’t adult enough to speak to me then don’t. You were never my friend, nor have you ever actually spoken to me. So...no need now. Have a nice afternoon.
I find it odd that right after I’m contacted by this “Jenny Jailbird” that her friend contacts me. And again, Mrs. Corkran and I are not friends nor does she correspond with me except on Jennifer’s behalf. So the contact at best...its suspect. Which leads me to believe that it wasn’t one of my friends but possibly Jennifer herself or someone she knows. I checked the profile out and there were three friends listed. All are Jennifer’s friends and one whom lives here in Fayetteville…found that odd too. Especially since all Jennifer did was talk about this woman and her daughters behind her back, now they are facebook friends and chatting it up. And all have been extremely vocal about me, yet none of them know me. Why would Jennifer’s “friends” befriend someone called Jenny Jailbird, especially with her photo from her arrest plastered as the profile pic. Another thing is there were two photos in the photo album. Both were documents. Both were from Jennifer’s arrest. Well, I sent a copy of the arrest report via facebook to her cousin Kathleen after she contacted me again on Jennifer’s behalf. None of my friends have ever seen it. The only other person I sent it to was Jennifer's Mom whom requested to see it.
So again, I do have copies of the police reports as well as the assessments all on digits which I could easily load up on my facebook and or on my blog right here. There isn’t a need for me to establish a fake account to put my ex on “blast.” But it wasn’t long before my daughter called me stating the same thing. Followed by emails from my ex:
ACTIONS TAKEN:
1)COMMAND NOTIFIED. YEP TALKED TO HIM ON HIS WAY TO FLORIDA.
2) IG REQUEST FOR INTERNAL INVESTIGATION OF YOUR CYBER BULLYING
3) UPDATE WITH THE VICTIMS' ADVOCACY ON BRAGG
4) POLICE REPORT WITH ALL EVIDENCE
5) FACEBOOK NOTIFIED TO EXPECT POLICE IN...VESTIGATION
6) FORT BRAGG POLICE NOTIFIED-WAITING ON KENTUCKY POLICE REPORT TO CONFER
7) DOCUMENTATION OF YEARS OF ABUSE-ESPECIALLY THE ESCALATING THREATS FROM YOUR 'FRIENDS' DIANNE SUNDERLAND HARDEMAN AND KIM JONES TO MYSELF, MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
8)FBI NOTIFIED. SWEAR TO GOD. I WILL PUSH MY FREEDOM TO THE MAX AND STOP YOUR ABUSE AGAINST MY KIDS AND I.
I AM NOT PLAYING. THIS IS ENOUGH. ENOUGH. I ASKED YOU TO CALL YOUR GOONS OFF. YOU WILL BE CONNECTED TO EVERYTHING. I AM CONFIDENT OF THAT. DON'T DROP THE SOAP YOU ASSHOLE. OH, AND TELL DONNA IF SHE IS CONNECTED? I WILL HAVE HER CHARGED AS WELL.
oh, and? 'Take it up with her'??????? REALLY. I DON'T FUCKING KNOW YOUR FRIENDS. YOU LIED AND INCITED HATRED TOWARDS ME. PUTTING ME AT RISK. AND I PRAY YOU ALL ARE PUNISHED FOR IT. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR COMPLETE STRANGERS HARASSING AND THREATENING ME. YOU ARE A CRIMINAL. NEVER LET YOUR CRIMINAL MIND AFFECT MY KIDS OR I AGAIN. PERIOD. 'TAKE IT UP WITH HER'??? REALLY? THEY ALREADY HAVE. COMPLETE STRANGERS THANKS TO YOU ENCOURAGING IT. AND? YOU STILL ARE. I REALLY HOPE YOU GET THE BOOK THROWN AT YOU. AND SO DOES EVERYONE WHO WAS HARASSED BY YOUR 'FRIENDS'.
So there you have it...Free Speech. I don't hide...behind anything.
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Friday, November 9, 2012
I'm Doing So Well Now...LOL
My ex talks about me way more than she should. So I decided to test the theory and see just how much. So here it is an experiment in obsessive behavior; this is to see just how many times my former spouse (who claims to not be obsessed or focused on me and my life) talks about me over the span of 30 days. I have given her a car, support paid the way she wants it and she has physical custody of my kids. So let’s just see if she gets all she says she wants…will this go away.
October 1st: ~~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #147~~After a FULL YEAR of fighting to have my Child Support Court Order honored and Military Law honored that mandates the BAH go to the dependants? Somebody FINALLY did their job.
I know right!! Yayyyyy! He can never take me to court again over the car!
Thank you, Roz. He insisted on paying for the car as part of the separation agreement. He did everything crazy he did in the separation and divorce figuring I would go back to him. I didn't. So, then he paid it off. Two reasons. 1) He figured he would save money on the payment (Which he refinanced to double what the payment was to keep going to court....and 2) He figured I didn't have the $400.00 for the taxes. Which, of course, I didn't. Then he threatened to 'steal' the car if I couldn't. Sure did-called it Operation Recovery. And, he threatened to take me to Court. Blah. Blah. Blah if I couldn't have the taxes paid in five days. Same old. Turns out, with a Court Order that the car was mine at the time of Pay Off? I didn't have to pay the taxes. So, it cost me $19.00 to Register it in my name. In conclusion? While he was trying to screw me again? He didn't do his homework and I scored me a car worth about $15,000.00 for $19.00 bucks. True story.
October 2nd: Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #149~~Wow. So I couldn't sleep. And I have been laying here thinking about the past two years of Hell. Two years ago I had to spend my Birthday without my kids. Last year he wouldn't pay child support and we were truly destitute. Worrying about toilet paper and soap. The BASICS.
October 3rd: I live in 'Small Town America'. And, it is AMAZING how 'Small Town' GOSSIP travels. For real. It is actually quite amazing. When I left my Ex, he knew this. I didn't. I never cared about anyone's 'business' nor was I miserable enough to embellish another's 'misery'. Well, he started a bunch of lies about me. And it snowballed.
~~YEP.Love EVERY WORD. WORD FOR WORD~~But me? I will do what I please, I will breathe and you will pay for your sins. This IS IT for us. You ARE full of it. haha. Your LOSS~~
October 14th: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #158~~We will see how THIS one goes over-oh well, what is RIGHT is RIGHT~And, I sure hope that Corrupt SOB who calls himself a 'Judge' reads this~~This 'Chess' Match is gonna stop-I am the Queen for his pawns.~~Jus Sayin'~~
Letter to Mr. Insanity:
"A head's up. I will not have the money to transport the kids for Christmas. Period. So, I would suggest you arrange s...
I mean, really? And if he goes overseas? Do I board a SHIP or a PLANE to get them there? Hardin County Family Court System? Get with the REAL WORLD. Helllooooooo!!!!!
October 16th: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #159~~I hesitate to post this for two reasons. One? Years ago in our first year of marriage my ex talked me into to 'Couple's Therapy'. Then he proceeded to portray himself as a 'victim'. He told the 'therapist' that I called him an 'Asshole'. She looked directly at ME and said "That is ABUSE. THAT is NAME CALLING". I gathered my purse, looked directly at her and said "He THREW me ACROSS A ROOM. INTO A WALL. I don't call that 'name calling'. I call THAT an ADJECTIVE TO DESCRIBE THE NOUN THAT ABUSED ME". Lol. Sure did. I mean, give me a break. Secondly, as a victim of abuse you have to deal with so much 'questioning', disbelief, and 'blaming the victim'. Most DON'T and REFUSE to accept this is rampant in our Society. They will say "You REALLY said that?" ...I will say "Hell, yeah, I said that". They will usually judge the victim. It is so much easier to say "She MUST have done SOMETHING" than to be honest and say "NO Woman should be thrown across a room!". It is so much easier than facing the fact that the United States of America has a huge problem with the abuse of women and children, the lack of resources and the corruption of the family courts which then allows the abuser to abuse you legally. That being said, here is my last e-mail to my abuser. The abuser of my kids. If you are faint at heart and Puritan in mind-disregard-if you are ready to hear the anger, disgust and fatigue of someone who is sick and tired of the abuse and the system's failure to protect-Please Read~Here we go.....
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Look, you asshole, this whole 'pretend world' that you live in where you portray to people that you are 'taking care' of me has gotten very old. Every cent you send is spent on your kids. …….Expect the Bill and notification of what I need from you as a Down Payment. In the meantime? Go Fuck Yourself and quit stressing my kids out. Asshole
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It's the truth and screw the 'formalities' or the expectation of me to always act like a 'Lady'. I won't with him. He better get used to it. And so should the 'system'. I have been abused long enough. I am tired of this waste of time and energy at the expense of my children who along with myself have literally been treated like third class citizens. I may as well wear a Burqua the way I was given NO RIGHTS FOR SO LONG. I should have been stoned in the streets. And, yes, Dear Reader, it IS that BAD here at times. Well, know what? I DON'T wear a Scarlet Letter. I DON'T wear a Burqua and my daughter and I will demand nothing less than fairness. I WILL teach her that. The Constitution PROTECTS her and her Father has RESPONSIBILITIES. No Appelate Judge can argue that. And? He deserves my 'ADJECTIVES'. There IS only ONE way to describe a completely abusive Asshole. Sorry...TRUTH!! Jus Sayin...~~~
Jennifer Specht: Thanks, Carol. That means a lot. Enough is Enough! And, no more, my kids can't take his drama. It's ridiculous. Braces? It's not like she is asking to go to Europe to party for the summer. I mean, give me a break!. So, I put him on blast and publish this Diary for every other woman who has been ripped apart by a system that is a BUSINESS. THEY WANT YOUR MONEY. How do they get it and protect their jobs? They keep you in Kangaroo Court. Enough.
Jennifer Specht: Yes, Carol, my children and I were not only victimised by him but then by everyone in the system. Literally TOLD that we didn't have a right to our anger and still being called liars. It is sickening how society supports abuse
October 21st: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #162~~I had an AMAZING Weekend. I did. I spent so much time with my beautiful kids. I cleaned the house (I LOVE a CLEAN House, not gonna lie!)~I got all of the groceries bought. I planned meals. I watched Romy play an amazing game of Football. I had a hilarious day with Maddy shopping and enjoyed every minute of Jeff's 'Gift of the Gab'. I have NO COMPLAINTS. Even my 'ex' husband's stupid, childish drama just made me laugh. It did. I like this feeling of 'Normal'. I like that my kids are finally seeing 'Normal'. They deserve it. Groceries, Mom home-Mom cooking-need something? Mom can get it? THAT is NORMAL. And THAT is COMFORT. Thank you, God, for carrying us through. We are loving our drama free life and THIS is our COMFORT ZONE~
Well there you have it; a lite month by my ex’s standards. For someone who has moved on, found the love of her life and is truly happy for the first time in her life. I sure do seem to come up in her thoughts an awful lot. I have received numerous emails, 32 emails in all during the month of October but refrained from including them in this. Many were ramblings and repeated the same thing over and over again. Well, it’s good to know I made a lasting impression. Bahahahahaha I sure do crack me up.
October 1st: ~~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #147~~After a FULL YEAR of fighting to have my Child Support Court Order honored and Military Law honored that mandates the BAH go to the dependants? Somebody FINALLY did their job.
I know right!! Yayyyyy! He can never take me to court again over the car!
Thank you, Roz. He insisted on paying for the car as part of the separation agreement. He did everything crazy he did in the separation and divorce figuring I would go back to him. I didn't. So, then he paid it off. Two reasons. 1) He figured he would save money on the payment (Which he refinanced to double what the payment was to keep going to court....and 2) He figured I didn't have the $400.00 for the taxes. Which, of course, I didn't. Then he threatened to 'steal' the car if I couldn't. Sure did-called it Operation Recovery. And, he threatened to take me to Court. Blah. Blah. Blah if I couldn't have the taxes paid in five days. Same old. Turns out, with a Court Order that the car was mine at the time of Pay Off? I didn't have to pay the taxes. So, it cost me $19.00 to Register it in my name. In conclusion? While he was trying to screw me again? He didn't do his homework and I scored me a car worth about $15,000.00 for $19.00 bucks. True story.
October 2nd: Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #149~~Wow. So I couldn't sleep. And I have been laying here thinking about the past two years of Hell. Two years ago I had to spend my Birthday without my kids. Last year he wouldn't pay child support and we were truly destitute. Worrying about toilet paper and soap. The BASICS.
October 3rd: I live in 'Small Town America'. And, it is AMAZING how 'Small Town' GOSSIP travels. For real. It is actually quite amazing. When I left my Ex, he knew this. I didn't. I never cared about anyone's 'business' nor was I miserable enough to embellish another's 'misery'. Well, he started a bunch of lies about me. And it snowballed.
~~YEP.Love EVERY WORD. WORD FOR WORD~~But me? I will do what I please, I will breathe and you will pay for your sins. This IS IT for us. You ARE full of it. haha. Your LOSS~~
October 14th: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #158~~We will see how THIS one goes over-oh well, what is RIGHT is RIGHT~And, I sure hope that Corrupt SOB who calls himself a 'Judge' reads this~~This 'Chess' Match is gonna stop-I am the Queen for his pawns.~~Jus Sayin'~~
Letter to Mr. Insanity:
"A head's up. I will not have the money to transport the kids for Christmas. Period. So, I would suggest you arrange s...
I mean, really? And if he goes overseas? Do I board a SHIP or a PLANE to get them there? Hardin County Family Court System? Get with the REAL WORLD. Helllooooooo!!!!!
October 16th: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #159~~I hesitate to post this for two reasons. One? Years ago in our first year of marriage my ex talked me into to 'Couple's Therapy'. Then he proceeded to portray himself as a 'victim'. He told the 'therapist' that I called him an 'Asshole'. She looked directly at ME and said "That is ABUSE. THAT is NAME CALLING". I gathered my purse, looked directly at her and said "He THREW me ACROSS A ROOM. INTO A WALL. I don't call that 'name calling'. I call THAT an ADJECTIVE TO DESCRIBE THE NOUN THAT ABUSED ME". Lol. Sure did. I mean, give me a break. Secondly, as a victim of abuse you have to deal with so much 'questioning', disbelief, and 'blaming the victim'. Most DON'T and REFUSE to accept this is rampant in our Society. They will say "You REALLY said that?" ...I will say "Hell, yeah, I said that". They will usually judge the victim. It is so much easier to say "She MUST have done SOMETHING" than to be honest and say "NO Woman should be thrown across a room!". It is so much easier than facing the fact that the United States of America has a huge problem with the abuse of women and children, the lack of resources and the corruption of the family courts which then allows the abuser to abuse you legally. That being said, here is my last e-mail to my abuser. The abuser of my kids. If you are faint at heart and Puritan in mind-disregard-if you are ready to hear the anger, disgust and fatigue of someone who is sick and tired of the abuse and the system's failure to protect-Please Read~Here we go.....
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Look, you asshole, this whole 'pretend world' that you live in where you portray to people that you are 'taking care' of me has gotten very old. Every cent you send is spent on your kids. …….Expect the Bill and notification of what I need from you as a Down Payment. In the meantime? Go Fuck Yourself and quit stressing my kids out. Asshole
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
It's the truth and screw the 'formalities' or the expectation of me to always act like a 'Lady'. I won't with him. He better get used to it. And so should the 'system'. I have been abused long enough. I am tired of this waste of time and energy at the expense of my children who along with myself have literally been treated like third class citizens. I may as well wear a Burqua the way I was given NO RIGHTS FOR SO LONG. I should have been stoned in the streets. And, yes, Dear Reader, it IS that BAD here at times. Well, know what? I DON'T wear a Scarlet Letter. I DON'T wear a Burqua and my daughter and I will demand nothing less than fairness. I WILL teach her that. The Constitution PROTECTS her and her Father has RESPONSIBILITIES. No Appelate Judge can argue that. And? He deserves my 'ADJECTIVES'. There IS only ONE way to describe a completely abusive Asshole. Sorry...TRUTH!! Jus Sayin...~~~
Jennifer Specht: Thanks, Carol. That means a lot. Enough is Enough! And, no more, my kids can't take his drama. It's ridiculous. Braces? It's not like she is asking to go to Europe to party for the summer. I mean, give me a break!. So, I put him on blast and publish this Diary for every other woman who has been ripped apart by a system that is a BUSINESS. THEY WANT YOUR MONEY. How do they get it and protect their jobs? They keep you in Kangaroo Court. Enough.
Jennifer Specht: Yes, Carol, my children and I were not only victimised by him but then by everyone in the system. Literally TOLD that we didn't have a right to our anger and still being called liars. It is sickening how society supports abuse
October 21st: ~Diary of a Divorcee-Confession #162~~I had an AMAZING Weekend. I did. I spent so much time with my beautiful kids. I cleaned the house (I LOVE a CLEAN House, not gonna lie!)~I got all of the groceries bought. I planned meals. I watched Romy play an amazing game of Football. I had a hilarious day with Maddy shopping and enjoyed every minute of Jeff's 'Gift of the Gab'. I have NO COMPLAINTS. Even my 'ex' husband's stupid, childish drama just made me laugh. It did. I like this feeling of 'Normal'. I like that my kids are finally seeing 'Normal'. They deserve it. Groceries, Mom home-Mom cooking-need something? Mom can get it? THAT is NORMAL. And THAT is COMFORT. Thank you, God, for carrying us through. We are loving our drama free life and THIS is our COMFORT ZONE~
Well there you have it; a lite month by my ex’s standards. For someone who has moved on, found the love of her life and is truly happy for the first time in her life. I sure do seem to come up in her thoughts an awful lot. I have received numerous emails, 32 emails in all during the month of October but refrained from including them in this. Many were ramblings and repeated the same thing over and over again. Well, it’s good to know I made a lasting impression. Bahahahahaha I sure do crack me up.
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