Very interesting

A while back there was an article featuring a Kelli Marvin, a University of Louisville psychologist whose job  is to evaluate a parent’s mental health and determine whether he or she is capable of responsibly caring for a their kids. Dr. Marvin’s role as the only forensic examiner for the state Cabinet for Health and Family Services ; is to provide factual information to the judge based on clinical standards she has learned. the story wasn't about me nor my family but I was contacted since they were going to mention my case which the good Dr worked on. Well with any article on line there is room for comments at the bottom of the page. Some folks commented at the bottom and this was one of those comments.

JHHSFAN

8:01 PM on August 30, 2011

What was left out of this article was the fact that Ms.Dingle isnt from the United States and went around ranting and raving about how poorly this country is and how the state of Ky was out to get her. Theres's no mention of her REPEATED drunkeness around her kids IN PUBLIC ( school football games and school functions). I dont know this "psychologist" inteviewed about Ms. Dingle but she sure didnt ask any JHHS parents here in Radcliff about her malicious behavior!!! These kids should be with thier father in Ft Benning GA.

All I can say is..wow.

Let's chit chat...

 This morning I had a length conversation with an old friend from college. We talked about everything under the sun as we got caught up on each other’s lives since our last talk. As with all of us human beings, we all have things in common. The one thing I feel we all have had to deal with or have in common are relationships.

 Relationships seem to span not only gender but race, color, social status, geographic location, you name it. They are truly universal. So as me and my buddy chatted up and focused on relationships we shared with each other our opinions, success as well as failures. Until I made one statement; “Why do we…at times settle for a partner? I mean think about it…when you shop for a big screen TV, do you buy the first one you see? No. It’s funny. We will spend hours and weeks searching for the TV we want yet we won’t do that when we are looking for someone.” And with that, the philosophical discuss began. We get into relationships and there are times we over look items because of whatever or rational is. But then when the relationship goes sour, we look to outside forces as potential reasons for the demise of the relationship when truth be told, we probably knew it was doomed from the start. We just thought we could over look things. In short you realize you compromised or settled. We used the “80/20” rule. Where if your partner has 80% of what you want, you should over look the other 20. Personally I think that is redonkulous. When was the last time you bought something and got just want you wanted? Often I am willing to bet.

 How or bet yet…how come we don’t treat relationships like we do items we buy at the store. How many times have you decided you wanted something and waited until it was available before purchasing it? I mean cars…how many times have you said I won’t get it until I can afford it the way I want it. I mean we tend to settle in what appears to be the most important area and yet will not in the least. Hell, we all have cars, TVs and numerous other items that we purchased that have outlasted relationships. And I’m sure we didn’t settle for the things we bought; we bought what we wanted.

 So as me and my bud continued we threw out different analogies but one seemed to really hit home. Ask yourself, how come we buy what we want and we don’t settle when we have to spend our hard earned money but with our hearts…we are damn near retarded?

Summer has ended...unoffically

 Been a hot minute since I wrote about life in good ole GA/AL. Yep…decided to live off post instead of on Post like I originally planned. But life is good. Finally got court out of the way last month so Jennifer will not be calling down here anymore; actually had to file a restraining order. Court was interesting…did it over the phone of all places. Prior to court, my attorney contacted me and read me all the things that Jennifer was petitioning the court for. Some of it I fully expected but some of it…I had to laugh. Our agreement/settlement was clear when it came to the furniture. It clearly states that if we can not agree who gets what then we have to go back before the judge and allow the court to decide. Jennifer’s lawyer tried to make me out to be this monster that simply TOOK it all leaving her with nothing. Well the email and letter I sent her in May of 2010 was a nice touch; especially when I quoted the agreement. But the kicker is when Jennifer was testifying my attorney asked her if she got and read the email. She said YES. But as per her standard response to anything that deals with talking to me she quickly added that she would not respond because she feared I’d have her arrested. I mean come on…how many times is that one gonna fly? Well I went and as I said, her lawyer tried to make me out to be the guy that stole it all and left the poor lil lady with nothing. I made it clear I made several attempts to divide the furniture yet she took what she wanted and never bothered to discuss with me the items she took.

 She asked for all of the kid’s things, to include trophies and certificates, cloths, beds, dressers, you name it. But you have to ask yourself, as a parent, how come she didn’t take all that stuff when she left? How come she didn’t find a place that was large enough to house her and the kids? She knew she had shared custody…why not get a place big enough? How come she has waited a year and a half to no ask for more furniture? She could have split it up like I asked and placed it into storage.

 So when the dust settled…it was on the judge. He did clear up the child support. I will be paying $1391.11 a month starting in October based on both our salaries. How that works not sure with her, as far as I know currently unemployed. That day in court, she told the judge that she had a job lined up but just needed to wait until court was done because it was my fault she had lost her two former jobs due to the fact that I had taken her to court sooo many times prior to this. She also said how the kids would all be back in sports and what not. But also said it was on me to ensure I knew what was going on with them in their lives as well as school. Thats right sports fans...I was not to contact her about any and all issues concerning school. I was to contact my children if I wanted that information. 

 Two months later, they aren’t in sports, I guess it’s ok that they aren’t. But I call and text them almost daily. Moo actually sent me an I love you back which I of course saved on my phone. Everyone asks how they are doing and as far as I know they are well. I don’t ask about their Mom or what she is or isn’t doing. I honestly don’t care. I care that they are doing well and adjusting to their current living condition.

 The judge made his ruling and he gave her all of her personal belongings that she left with me when she left. He also gave her our deep freezer and the kitchen table and chairs. So yet again…she got what she asked for. Yet, she still isn’t happy. How come? Oh, the judge agreed that she should be responsible for getting all the items. Translates to she must come here to Alabama and pick up all the items. I informed her that I would have all items ready for shipment to her this weekend and I just wanted to know when she’d be coming to get them. I even told her since the kids were coming down for fall break and we had to make the exchange (Judge ordered all travel to be 50% so she must meet me halfway) I was willing to bring items with me for both exchanges since I acknowledged that she was financially strapped.

 How was I repaid, more calls down here to my unit saying things like she has been published on the front page of the newspaper and that I have defrauded the taxpayers. She is unable to pay the cost since I have not paid her the BAH. I mean seriously?

I got a call from JAG yesterday and it was explained and made clear to me just how many times she has called down here to their offices as well as the half-truths and lies she has told in order to get someone’s attention for her complaint. Problem is when they check into it they soon find out all the information that she has excluded.  So…my journey continues…and with it the hope that one day this will all cease.