Kids are in KY

25July

 I dropped the kids off this past weekend. That was a lot tougher than I thought; for them and for me. The drop off took place at the Radcliff Police Department. Jennifer insisted on this…fearing that I would start something and she was yet again...AFRAID of me. Oh brother. How many times am I gonna have to hear the same song and dance coming from her. If I had a dime for every time she said it, I’d be rich. LOL. She had the neighbor (Dee), go figure bring her to pick up the kids.  What I found funny was Dee’s demeanor. She acted as if she was disgusted by this and the fact that my children were clearly upset and crying. How dare they act like this, they would be living with their Mom who loved them and their father is nothing more than a MONSTER for ruining their mother’s life. What was really funny was when I got home her son came across the street to talk as he has done since 2005. I soon heard her call him back across the street with a tone that showed clear disgust. She’s never said squat to him. Even when he was taking my mail out of my mail box…nothing. But now you’re gonna make your son come back across the street? LOL.

  They have lived with me for their entire lives and now we are going to be apart. Jennifer had the nerve to tell them “It’s just like one of Daddy’s deployments.”  What a crock of shit! We are apart and will suffer a strained relationship because she refuses to co-parent with me. I guess she will allow the boys to use her lap top to talk with me via yahoo messenger…ROFLMAO. Yeah, just like when I was in Korea right. NOT! She also told the judge she’d have a job by now, she was gonna ensure that the kids were all back to playing sports because I wouldn’t allow them to play anything.  Well I am sure gonna hold her to her word as best I can.

 The whole week prior you could feel the tension building within the kids. Fighting, arguing or nothing, I felt for them yet I couldn’t do anything about it. So Friday night we all went out to dinner and a movie. Kind of a last hoorah of sorts. Jennifer had been calling down here to speak to the kids almost at an hourly rate and to Benning in an effort to find someone within the military to order me to pay her. No such luck. I have and will continue to take care of my responsibilities as I have my entire life. When I dropped the kids off I wrote her a check for 1,400.00 as well as I gave her the current registration on the Mazda which she is solely responsible for. Yet when I mentioned to her about the kids and fall break she scowled back at me, “That’s what lawyers are for!” LOL. That’s cool...I posted dated the check 2AUG11. Hehehe thank God for the lil victories.

 Sunday I get another call from her…again, threaten me with calling folks that have this “power’ to make me do what they want. This time a COL Wadsworth was gonna get a call about how I refused to register the car, pay her money and God knows what else. Wait…didn’t I just say I gave her the current registration and a check for 1400.00? RME. The drama that Jennifer causes is just ridiculous. If she spent have the amount of time she spends complaining about unfair treatment and took that energy and used it for finding employment…their wouldn’t be an issue.  Now she’s calling my realtor asking about a washer and dryer. She just won’t stop.

 She so desperately wanted our children in her possession…which she now has yet she still isn’t happy. At this point I have not a clue what she actually wants. She wanted a divorce, she got it. She wanted me to “Leave her alone”, she got it. She wanted her own life, she got it. She wanted to be a “single mother”, she got it. She wanted a new car paid for by me, she got it. She wanted child support, she got it. So how can you have everything that you asked for…yet still be unsatisfied? Oh…I know, she wants me to be unhappy and miserable…she isn’t getting that.

 So my kids are now back in KY with their Mom. School starts in a week and I dropped about 200 per child getting them some school cloths to take back home. So at least they will start school with some new items. Being a single parent isn’t easy. I have learned that from numerous female friends I have made the past two years. I have always had respect for single parents but you really don’t know what it’s like until you actually walk in their shoes.

I always cover myself, some folks should keep that in mind...

I wrote this back in May of 2009. It's pretty clear and I'd love to have this explained in court. Here is another example of my craziness...LMAO.

Jennifer,                                                                                                        23May10

 

 Hope you have had a pleasant day. I am writing you this letter as a friendly reminder that our arrangement is due to end in one week. As per our separation agreement and subsequent divorce decree, I agreed to pay for both the house, the apartment and all general utilities until the end of the 2009-2010 school year at said time I claim the home and I will pay you partial child support according to KY guidelines. All items in the home need to be agreed upon to whom will take said items if an agreement can not be made, and then we would allow the court to decided who gets said items.

 The last time I will be at the apartment is 30 May at which you will back at the apartment unless you have already acquired your own living accommodations. If you can have all you belongings out by that Sunday would be great. I would appreciate it if you make a list of the things you would like to take with you so we can avoid going to court and wasting money. If not, then I’d like a date at which time you will come and get all your things. This needs to be done soon so as to make this as easy and simple as possible. What I don’t want to happen is every month getting a call asking to come get more things. If you would like to keep the apartment then you should speak with the owner, their number is 268-0825 (Pin Oak Acquisitions). This started a year ago and I have owned up to my obligation as per the divorce decree we both signed and agreed upon.

 The end date of this agreement was known on the first day our school and when we received the school’s calendar. I am not asking for anything outside of reason since we made the agreement on 27May09, close to a year ago and we have had a year to plan this and decide what we wanted vs. do not want. I also would like to coordinate to pick up the other door key to the apartment so I can clear the apartment; the lease terminates on 1 June. If you could get me your bank account as well as the routing number I will set up an allotment so that the child support will go directly to your account with no hassle at all.

 Also the issue with the Mazda’s title and registration must be dealt with. I agreed to pay the debt and that’s it. The vehicle has to be put in your name for numerous reasons the main one being it is your vehicle as you have assumed responsibility for it. I will agree to co-sign a loan and continue to pay for it until the loan is repaid. This way the vehicle can be titled, registered and insured in your name, solely. I am leaving this letter at the house as well as sent a copy to your email.

 

          Jerome

A message from my former spouse

I found out that this was her response to the aforementioned letter I wrote her days ago.

In regards to your 'threat' to try to get me to pay YOUR credit DEBT and the house that you let go to Hell? Simply because I am asking for a fair distribution of the personal property? Not surprising. You REALLY do believe that I deserved NOTHING from the home. Do you not see how abusive you appear? That because I left you-because I could NOT tolerate one more minute of you ripping shirts off of you, your lying manipulations and your SCREAMING in my face-that I should have left with NOTHING?

You see, Jerome. Now that people can step back and see the whole picture and the grand scope of all of the horrendous things you have done to my children and I? You look like a MONSTER. Because? You ARE a Monster. Even people like Dee and Derrick and countless community members who had trouble wrapping their mind around the insanity now sit back and say. "WOW". You managed to get EPO's on me and a DVO. By LYING. Now? Everyone can sit back and (my lawyer's laughter is the best on this stupidity) see that after insisting on sharing TWO residences-INSISTING on paying for everything then you go and tell a Judge you need 'PROTECTION' from me? Haha! Makes NO SENSE. Now? Everyone can sit back and see how you let corrupt social services ABUSE your OWN children. You let them go through HELL to try and protect your OWN ass. WOW. After YOU were reported for abuse? You then let me get attacked after the Judge realised he had made a HUGE mistake believing that you were this 'respectable protector of others' in your Soldier Uniform. And, now? Everyone sees what a FAKE you are. A WOLF in Sheep's clothing.

So, the nice thing is I now have an open and closed lawsuit against the Cabinet. And? I am looking into a civil lawsuit against YOU. Yep, brace yourself. You think you can try to RUIN someone's life? LIE about the stupidest things in court and TESTIFY against someone to take away their Constitutional Right to Parent? You think you can maliciously LIE against someone's character? Slander their name? Take their personal property and go on a Personal Vendetta for TWO YEARS to destroy someone? You think you can take away someone's Constitutional Right to their PROPERTY? Destroy their ability to earn an income by LYING and dragging them in and out of court? Sounds pretty Criminal. And that is what you are. A complete Criminal. Hiding behind a Soldier's Uniform and pretending to be 'caring' for your children. What a MONSTER.

And? For all that you have done to drag my children and I through absolute insanity? For trying to ruin my name? For trying to take EVERYTHING from me? For RUINING my life? I am suing you in Civil Court. Good Luck with that one, too. Everything is catching up to you.

And what was it all for? I left you for this VERY reason. You are a cruel, vindictive and bitter man who will PUNISH and TAKE. You will sink to ANY low to try and protect your 'fake life' so you can sleep thinking people look at you and see a 'Man' that has his life together. And it is FAKE. Your life is a LIE. You don't have an honest bone in your body. And? I'm NOT letting you play games with MY life anymore. You have NO right.

Do what is right for your children-if that is even possible for you to do the right thing anymore. Quit lying to yourself. It's actually just pathetic to watch at this point. To listen to the dribble of 'I care about my kids' (eventhough they have had to experience such insanity-with NO CHOICE because this is what you have irresponsibly and selfishly chosen for them)....I 'do the right thing' (WHAT have you done right? really?).....'Now that you are dragging me back to court-it takes from the children'....Haha! I have no choice because my children's father is a stereotype and REFUSED to pay child support WITHOUT a court order...WOW. I could go on.

You listened to my Mother-which I will tell you has been one of your WORST mistakes. You see, because, simply put? Your behavior-that she encouraged- has been criminal. But-I can see why-because you two share one thing in common. She is ALSO a very hateful, vindictive and bitter person. And? It's textbook. As in all dysfunctional relationships the Abuser needs a Scapegoat. Someone to BLAME. And you both have always chosen me. And? I'm NOT your Scapegoat anymore. I did nothing wrong by leaving you. If 50% of America can get a Divorce so can I. I hated being married to you. I hated your abuse. I couldn't even stand the sound of your voice at the end. I hated how you treated my children. I hated how you kept us in debt. And? Most of all, I hated you for being a fake. I hated you for being a HYPOCRITE. I hated your 'facade'. I HATED being your 'trophy' wife who you treated like SHIT. I hate you. I really do. And that is because you are so hateful and mean.

Maybe, for your sake-you will stop your lying and fake life. Maybe that will allow you to salvage a relationship with your children. Alex saw through it and wants NOTHING to do with a FAKE impersonator of life. That's on you. Not me. In the meantime? QUIT your games. We are all sick of it. Not just us. The COMMUNITY, the Courts-hell, the Police got sick of you a long time ago. Jesus Christ-do you NOT see what a fool you are making of yourself?

So, that being said-I will sue you for RUINING my potential for income-for LYING (for every one of YOUR lies? I have TWENTY people willing to counter it and tell the TRUTH). I will sue you for DEFAMATION OF CHARACTER (again-for every one of your lies about my character-I have TWENTY people who will tell a different story). You and my mother also need to GIVE UP on the whole-"She's mentally ill" crap. Number one? If I were mentally ill? I would have never survived the marriage-let alone the divorce. Number Two? Judge Hall needs to re-read the Psychological Report where Dr. Marvin CLEARLY states that I DO NOT meet the criteria for a Personality Disorder. And (Judge Hall knows this) he is NOT a 'Qualified Mental Health Professional" Haha. And he made that a part of Court Record! Hilarious-I'm so embarassed for him. Number Three? Dr. Marvin kept telling me "Remember-I'm basing my remarks on the 'Evidence' only-what has been 'presented to me'....lol!! In other words? The LIES of you and KIM SAPP. HEARSAY (by the way). The truth is? A man who does the HORRIBLE things you have done? A man who drags his kids through a nightmare? A man who takes his own children from their mother? A man who does this? Is MENTALLY ILL. A mother (your lovely ex mother in law) who abandons her daughter? A mother who supports a man who ABUSED her daughter for FIFTEEN YEARS? A mother who wishes her own daughter to lose custody of HER children? Is MENTALLY ILL. You and my mother? Are insane.

See you in court. I hope you have to pay for all of your lies and games. See? My life? Isn't YOUR game. I'm dead serious. I have all of the court record. Poor Judge Hall looks like such a fool half of the time listening to your complete NONSENSE. Kim Sapp? Couldn't even explain the Jan/2010 'incident'. Hilarious. Worth Millions-literally-for VIOLATING my Constitutional Right to parent, exercise my RIGHT to COUNSEL-oh? And the CONSPIRACY? Of which YOU partook in? Yeah-by you ALL conspiring to keep me from my kids if I didn't plead 'guilty' to 'neglect'? MAJOR Color of Law Violation-A FELONY. And, luckily, by the GRACE of God, I can PROVE IT. And you? STUPIDLY were a part of it. WOW. All in an effort to Punish me. Who DO you think you ARE trying to ruin MY life?  Well, honey, you set your own self up being a hateful, hateful fool. I hope you all do time in Prison-that's where criminals belong.

Give me what is right so I can resume taking excellent care of my children. That's right, the children I carried and gave birth to. They deserve a LIFE absent of their father's redundant abuse and bitterness. You are NOT hurting me. You have SERIOUSLY hurt YOURSELF by being a part of literal CRIMES against me. WOW. You just have no idea do you? And? You ARE hurting them. And? They know this. They are not stupid. I can live without it all. I already have and I survived. You can't TAKE me down. Sorry, Soldier-but I DON'T lie and I don't sink to your lows and look like a fool. But, they are children and need to see their father doing the right thing. It's not rocket science. GROW UP.

(PS-look up Color of Law Violations. Oh, and get copies of the Court Record that show your testimony, your LIES and? Your conspiracy with Social Services, the Prosecutor and the Judge to VIOLATE my RIGHT to my Kids, my life, my ability to earn an income. Do yourself a favor. Don't dig yourself a BIGGER ditch than you already have. You belong in Prison for taking away my RIGHTS...And? I'm taking them BACK!!!)

A letter to my former Spouse

This is what I wrote my ex-spouse about our children's return. I found out she replied to this e-mail in her normal fashion. This will give you a little insight into how I have dealt with her and in return how she deals with me.

Jennifer,
As I informed you with the previous email, I will be returning the kids to you on Saturday the 23rd, ETA 1700. The reason for the later time is I am trying to bring some of the kids belongings via uhaul. If I get my HHG I will bring back what they wish for me to return. Moo wants her bed and for her other main items to remain here. I also know you have a bunkbed for the boys so I I can fit their dressers I will bring them along with what ever else they want.
As far as support for our kids. I think for you to have contacted everyone in my chain of command and concern and to go outside that and then contact the Armor School CSM...Jennifer you wanted out of th marriage, you drove this train and now you dislike the destination and wish to change directions and track...not gonna happen.
I love our kids and I will always be there and support them the best I can no matter what you do. They have a copy of all our stuff on file with the IG's office here at FBGA so you can contact them but they already have been informed of you by my chain of command.
Next is child support. You know its gonna be based on how much you make as well as I. Its estimated at 1400.00 a month. I will contact Dawn and make sure I'm good to pay you that amount on 1AUG since you will have the kids and school starts in two days. I want to make sure I get credit for paying early without the court order for child support being in place.
I have stopped shielding the kids from all this because no matter how hard I try...you will not allow me too.  So this "agreement" is fully known by them because I discussed it with them weeks ago so they know the truth and understand how your actions affect me and my finances and inturn how it affects them. I had planned on spending money on school cloths and such but they understand by you dragging me to court I have to again pay my lawyer which is taking money away from them.
I've always cooperated with you...yet you always try to portray me as this "stereotypical" blackman in the Army who won't take care of his kids. Well I always do what's right and you know that. Also the "martial property," you are seeking a fair distrobution of said property. Well...becareful what you wish for, I have advised that if this goes before the judge ALL MARITAL PROPERTY WILL BE EQUALLY DISTRUBUTED. You forget that all the debt was jointly in our names so I will ask that you take half of all the debt. So all will be on the table so to speak. None of this ever had to go down like this but you seem to feed on the craziness of all this and its crystal clear to all except you. I'm truly sorry for the place you have found yourself in. I did my best to set us up both for success in the eyes of our friends, family and most importantly our children. Yet you have fought me as if I were trying to destroy you and yourr name when in actualality...I was trying to look out for you and part as friends not enemies. The judge said you will never cooperate with me nor co-parent. This sentiment has been echoed by all yet I still try. Guess I hope that one day the woman I fell in love with and married will show up and we can move into our kids future as friends and work together. Yeah...its a dream that I will continue to hold on too.

I hope you are successful in your new career and life as a single mother as you have always asked to be. According to rule 702-704 I know what I'm entitled. Id like the kids for fall break in October and according to it being an odd year I will have thanksgiving and you xmas. Take care and godspeed Jennifer....

Court is finished...it's all done now.... Part II

Well as I Pulled up the street and crested the small hill I looked right and there it was…the Mazda. You got to be kidding me! Nope, not kidding, Jennifer was over at Dee’s house acting like she’d won the lottery and in clear violation of the DVO. But guess what…couldn’t exactly call the police on her now could I? It’d look like I was vindictive and little. I wasn’t going to stoop to her level so I backed into the driveway and went inside. She hadn’t been across the street for months but today…whatever. I had gotten numerous calls and simply hit ignore. I didn’t really care to talk to anyone. I just simply needed to be still and just let it all sink in. I made a standard reply for texting to and sent it to anyone who texted me.


You’d think that the kids, after getting what they have been asking and begging for for months would be jumping for joy. But they really weren’t. It was almost like they themselves were surprised. It felt like they said what they wanted their Mom to hear but deep down inside they wanted something differently. I could even see this in Moo. She was complaining about her new Laptop I gotten her and I told her Mom was gonna have to deal with it. Tears formed in her eyes, “Are you gonna now punish me?!?” “No Moo I’m just saying, it’s gonna be on your Mom to get you virus protection because I may not have time to get it off AKO.” I shut the door and went up stairs to lie down.

I looked outside and saw Jeff playing with Dee’s grandkids. I had asked my kids why they hadn’t been playing with them prior to today, Maddy thought the girls were weird and the boys…well they had no interest. But if you asked Dee, it was because I wouldn’t let them. Wrong, I didn’t let them come over to HER HOUSE for one simple reason…she had gone on Facebook numerous times and talked bad about me knowing fully well my children could read her comments. My lawyer questioned her about this in court; was it appropriate for her to go on Jennifer’s wall and make comments about their father knowing that they could read these negative things? She basically said it was her choice and her right. When asked about Jennifer making comments on her wall about me and it’s appropriateness as well as was it becoming of a parent…she said, “I have no opinion on it.”

After relaxing for a few I decided to do a lil work when my man Rich showed up, great timing. We talked for a bit and I explained what had happened and how I in turn felt. We decided to go to Ryan’s and get a bite to eat. Rome had been sleeping in the living room so I woke him up and asked if he wanted to come. Jeff was across the street since Jennifer was keeping him on a short lease and the kids were all supposed to have dinner at Dee’s with their Mom…in celebration of her victory. Some dinner, Moo had already left for a friends, Rome was with me which left Jeff. Like I said, for kids who had just been given their “wish” they sure weren’t acting like it.

When we got home Jeff was pretty upset that we had went top Ryan’s without him and I explained it was a last minute thing and that he was with his Mom so what’s the problem; nothing but attitude from my lil man. By this time he and Rome were both in the driveway with me and Rich so I had a lil chat with them about court and what took place. I asked why I was getting attitude when they had gotten what they wanted. “You wanted to live with Mom…well now you got it so why you’re acting all pissy with me…I don’t have a clue.” We all stood around and talked more about it as Jeff, of course, asked more questions. Rich chimed in to help Jeff understand some things…like I said, Rich is my man. Jeff didn’t believe the summer visitation as we were explaining it. He kept saying that’s not what Mom said. I didn’t care what “Mom” said, I know what the judge said and that’s all that matters.

I contacted Jennifer via text to inform her of the plan and received two drunken phone calls blasting me. How dare I take our kids for the summer, I’d had them for a year and I was a horrible father for making them come with me to Georgia for 3 weeks and potentially have a goodtime with Dad. Anyhoo, texts soon followed and come the 1st of July the threats for money came too. I had better pay her the kid’s child support and she wanted her check by noon. I ignored it along with the 30 or so texts I received threatening she was gonna call everyone in the Army (which she did) and tell them how was gonna wisk my kids off to Georgia where they’d be stuck in a hotel for 3 weeks. How cruel of a Father I am.

Well as the days progressed the calls and texts continued. Now she wanted the washer and dryer. She didn’t want them for her but for the kids since she now had custody she needed them and since I had “Illegally” taken all the martial property (forget that she signed the settlement) she was gonna take me back to court and I’d have to bring it all back. Hahahaha. Ahhh, I needed a good laugh and she wasn’t getting anything else from me. I would be playing around 1400 a month for child support not counting the 394 for her car payment. Well that ain’t happening. See, when we separated and the agreement was set, she never bothered to define a dollar amount. So you can’t enforce what you don’t have. She now has to have her lawyer file the paperwork asking for child support and until then she gets nothing. Knowing this she started demanding my BAH. Again, she listens to too many shit house lawyers cause she isn’t entitled to it. Our original agreement is in effect until the new amount is filed in the courts. She doesn’t like it but hey…that’s how the system works.

Court is finished...it's all done now....

Well I promised all that’d I’d write and explain how Jennifer ended up with custody after more than two years of being non-compliant and refusing to co-parent with me. Well it boiled down to one factor…our kids being 14, 13 and 10 and them being allowed to have a say in where they’d live. So each child went into court alone and spoke to the judge as well as being questioned by both attorneys. The boys both made it clear that they loved both me and their mother and that they didn’t want to choose where they lived. Madison how ever, made it extremely clear where she wanted to live as well as how she felt about me. She explained how I have never done anything for her, I don’t do anything for her and how she wanted to live with her Mom.


So when it was time for summations my attorney went first pointing out all the things I have done to co-parent and foster a relationship with not only my kids but their Mom as well. Jennifer’s attorney couldn’t really say much since he had just taken the case a few weeks earlier. Why her previous attorney dropped her…only God knows. But he was paid for by the neighbor across the street who has become Jennifer’s “Fill in” Mom. Not only did she pay for Jennifer’s lawyer, but has been giving her money for food since she is currently unemployed. Yes she lost yet another job and according to her, it was because of hundreds of times she has been drug to court by me. Truth be told we have been to court a total of 9 times. 3 of those by me specifically; these include Once for The DVO (Domestic Violence Order), for her to take responsibility of the Mazda and just now for primary custodian.

After both attorneys’ were done the judge spoke. I sat there and I could tell it wasn’t going to be what I wanted to hear. As he spoke to me and Jennifer about how many times we had been in his court room over the past two years he looked over at me and started talking directly to me about what he thought of me, my parenting and my numerous attempts at co-parenting with her. He explained that she would never co-parent with me and how it was a shame. I was to be commended for my behavior and right now I was the “Superior” parent. As I sat there and listened…my heart was breaking but part of me knew it was going to be alright. I had spent the last two years doing it right and showing my kids what right looked like. He explained that with the children being old enough to have a say he took consideration into what they wanted too.

Rome and Jeff have always maintained the stance that they loved and cared for both Jennifer and I but they simply didn’t want to choose. They did make it clear that they didn’t want to be separated from their sister. I guess we know where they learned loyalty from? However, the deciding factor was Moo. Moo has made it very clear that she does not want to live with me…period. After her testimony to the judge…it was made crystal clear where she wished to live at.

I knew that for Jennifer to get the kids after her behavior she had displayed…it had to be divine intervention. So with that being said it was all over. The judge didn’t want Moo to come with me to Georgia. He felt that she had been so poisoned by Jennifer’s crap that she would just be a destructive force. Jennifer created this monster she should be the one to deal with it. He looked over at Jennifer and scowled, “What you reap is what you sow. You’re gonna get exactly what you have asked for. And one day when these children are 20 or 25 they will look back on this and they will know just what you did.”

So I left court…feeling down and strangely enough…at peace. I drove home, called my Mom and Dad as well as my former in-laws and informed them of what happened. As the afternoon passed I got more calls and texts from all those who had supported me the last two years. Some understood and some did not. But I told them all the same, I’m good and I’m at peace with the decision. I feel like the judge set her up. Like, in order for the kids to see what is really going on, they need to see it for themselves…you know live it. Then and only then will they truly understand and stop fighting me. Or the spiritual version which says, God gave me the last year so I could see what its like to have them alone. Because my kids will be back with me and when they return…it’ll be for good. I like to believe the latter.

TO BE CONTINUED....